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For everyone who works daily on a computer.The mistakes daily mouse and keyboard usage will result in CARPAL TUNNEL SYNDROME...!Use the mose and keyboard correctly..View below for the right techniques....Click read more to know about them...!
Spcl Thnx to HK.Raju annaya



Correct way to work on a computer

Hand exercises for Carpal Tunnel Syndrome

So friends,use it correctly...Be healthy..Thats wat i expect..Health and happiness....Keep rocking...!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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My Dearest Daughter

Dear all,here is a wonderful pictorial representation of a nice message...Its the best of the emails that i have received till today.....Specially for the female sector of my blog...Click read more and read with attention..!

These may be simple pics but they hold a wonderful message....Please read wid attention and later understand with affection...!

Thnxx to Raju annaya for sharing this....Keep rocking friends....!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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Typical Human Relations(funny)

Hey readers....Ram is back again wid another funny post....Present generation lo relations madhyalo ela untunayi thoughts ani cheppataniki ee funny post....Not to point out anyone,edo saradaga navvukuntaru ani....Thnx to Raju annaya :)

Keep rocking....!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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Friendship-another way to explain it in a funny way

Hey readers,here is a small pictorial representation of friendship...Its a bit funny but has a nice message...Click read more...!

Funny isnt it...?Thnxx to HK Raju annaya for sharing this....Keep rocking..!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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Why Your Relationship Isn’t Working..?

Why Your Relationship Isn’t Working...?A wonderful article by RaymondBork.....A nice mail that i got from one of my friends....Thankyou buddy for dedicating such a nice article...Click read more...!

If your relationship is in trouble, then fixing it has not been a priority. It’s tucked somewhere in between your work, rest, home life, hobbies and other stuff going on in your life. That is also true for a diet plan, not working, or anything else not being resolved, because you are not giving it your undivided attention. Your excuses will come thick and fast “I’ll see how the relationship works out when we go on holiday.” or “I’m too busy or too tired to do anything about it.”

Now just say I offered you that holiday with £5,000 spending money, free, if you would sort your relationship out! Heck, I will throw in a new car as well! Wouldn’t that fantastic offer concentrate your mind on sorting out your problem relationship? I’ve given you six weeks to sort it out before you jet off to Hawaii.

What would you do in that time to fix your troubled relationship? Why, you would be totally focussed on the task in hand, taking positive steps in reaching your goal, communicating, listening to your partner’s concerns, etc.

I am a much happier person when I am content in my relationship. Sure, there’s other stuff that bugs me a lot, but my relationship is my bedrock. All the other nasty things life throws at me, is shared with my partner. Together we moan about the bills, the government, and lack of money.

Now that you have decided to prioritize your relationship problems, you need to set your goal – You, of course, want to be happy and content in your relationship with your partner. Try this simple four point F.A.T.E. template:

F: Focus – Prioritize the problem you want to resolve and make it your mission in life to reach your goal.

A: Achievable – You need to be sure that it is your core belief. It’s what you want or everything else you need to do will get bogged down by indifference.

T: Time – You should have a time scale to work to. This should motivate you to work on achieving your desired result.

E: Execute – Take action to do what’s needed to fix your relationship.

So much can be achieved by prioritizing your troubled relationship, but only when you recognize it’s importance to you and how much you want it.

Writing this post has made me think about my life, the successes and failures. I regret some of the actions I took and decisions made. Not one of them have anything to do with work or career, but everything to do with relationships, love and being part of someone’s life.

Author Bio:

Raymond Bork is an ex rock musician, turned author, writing informative eBooks to help you through relationship problems.

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Diagnosis of Relationships

Some important points to be noticed in your relationships...Click read more...!

Over the course of my blogging, It seems that all the problems, or at least a good portion of problems that couples have, are not new in the scheme of relationships. I’d like to try and expand and refine one of the consistent ideas that I’ve said in reply to comments and advice given.
Before looking for a serious relationship, take a moment to think about what I’m saying here in this tenant. It may just solve some heartache before it ever has a chance to happen.

The tenants of relationships:

1. Know who you are and what you want for yourself

2. Know who they are and what they want for themselves

3. Communicate openly and honestly with each other.

Know who you are and what you want for yourself.

This one should be the easiest because who knows us better than ourselves? If we are not sure who we are, then it’s time for some soul searching. What we want can change over time, but being honest with ourselves should keep this somewhat simple to recognize.

Know who they are and what they want for themselves.

We are not mind readers and can only hope that the other person knows themselves and what they want. More importantly, that they communicate that with us openly and honestly. Time is the key element here and most times we have plenty of it, so take your time in finding out who that person is and if they are what we are looking for.

Communicate openly and honestly with each other.

If both people do this, then wasted time will be cut down to a minimum. Unfortunately, in a world full of players, liars and phonies, we don’t always have this benefit. I can only say see number 1 above and take your time.

Communication and honesty are so important to relationships that they both need to be defined, expanded and sincerely evaluated in each of us. I’ll hopefully be dealing with these two shortly.Keep rocking...!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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Is the presentday technology ruining our relationships...?

Present generation is a world depending on the increasing TECHNOLOGY...Am i right..?Wid this i have noticed that few relationships are being destroyed because of the increasing technology...Click read more to read that...!

Our ability to connect more easily to the rest of the world seems to have left many people less connected in their real life relationships. I’m always amazed at how many people I see ignoring the person next to them while they talk or text on cell phones or check emails on BlackBerries. I also notice how many people post problems to me that are centered around technology invading their homes in the form of FaceBook, chatrooms, and even video games.

I’ve seen before about the problems that come from using technology for any type of cybersex relationship, and most people seem to recognize how this behavior can be destructive to a relationship. For this post, I’m focusing on uses of technology that we usually view as harmless and even a “natural” part of everyday life. These “harmless” technologies can be just as harmful to a relationship because we accept them as part of our lives, yet they can take away precious time that we should be spending with our loved ones. With that said, I do think that by following some rules that are really rooted in common courtesy, that we can eliminate letting technology destroy our relationships.

Cell Phones- If you are out with a real live person, enjoy their company and forget about the phone. Unless it’s your child, or some dire emergency call, just let it go to voice mail and call them back later. In any case, there is never a reason to be on a long phone call while you are out with someone. The most offensive thing is when I see people that are on a cell phone while they are out having dinner with someone. The other person looks bored to tears. To add insult to injury, when you catch a bit of their conversation you will often hear the person say into their phone “nothing, what are you doing?” The rules for texting and mobile email are the same as for talking–emergency use only.

“Socializing” on the Internet- This includes FaceBook, Twitter, chatrooms, or any other form of socializing on the internet. If the time you spend with friends online takes away from time that you can spend with real live people, then there is a problem. I hear complaints all the time from men and women about how their partner will ignore them and sit in front of the computer for hours updating Twitter and FaceBook. As a general rule, I don’t think that you should be socializing on the internet when there are people around you that you can socialize with. I also think it’s a problem if you turn down opportunities to socialize in person in favor of staying home and “socializing” on your computer.

Video Games- Until recently, I thought that video game addiction was strictly a problem that only affected kids. Of course video games have been around for quite some time now. So these kids have had a chance to grow into adults that may never have broken this addiction.

I read about one very sad case where a woman was struggling with how to manage her husband’s video game addiction. He was ignoring her as well as many of his responsibilities in favor of playing these games. She tried learning the games to turn this into something that they could do together, but it consumed too much time. Setting limits on the time spent playing was another thing that she tried, but the addiction almost seemed like that of an alcoholic. Even the smallest amount of playing seemed to turn into hours. After reading her story I really felt that it sounded like he needed to go “cold turkey” when it came to playing video games.

So whether the problem is cell phones, the internet or video games, technology is something that should make our lives simpler. When technology starts to complicate our lives by harming our personal relationships, then it’s time to make some changes in our behavior. If you find that you have trouble setting and sticking to limits on your use of technology, then you may need to seek professional help. It may seem strange to think about seeking help for a technology addiction but it’s better to address it rather than reaching the point where you are more comfortable interacting through technology rather than having face to face conversations.

So what do you think? Can using technology be a real addiction?If you are by chances addicted to anyof the above mentioned things,please forgo them and join your partners for a healthy and lovely relationships...Keep rocking..!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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Being too much honest..? May effect your relationship

Are you being tooo honest with your loved ones..? Then you need to think once cause that may show some effect to your relationships....To know why and what click read more...!

As much as we value honesty in all relationships, there are times when too much honesty can cause its own set of problems. Now I’m not advocating deliberately withholding information in your relationship, but depending on the timing and circumstance there are times when “complete” honesty is overrated. Of course one person’s version of how much honesty they need in their relationship does not always match up with their partner’s honesty requirements, but there are still certain guidelines that can help you decide what information needs to be revealed and when it needs to be revealed.

Too Much, Too Soon- Most people have things about themselves that are very personal that are difficult to share with others. These are the kind of topics that need to be shared slowly as your relationship progresses from casual to serious. During the “getting to know you stage” these things should never be shared because they are likely to overwhelm the person that is trying to get to know the basics about you and you will feel embarrassed about revealing these things if this revelation does drive the other person away. For example, if you were abused in your past, this is important for your partner to know as your relationship becomes serious. Even though it’s an important part of your life, it is not something that a person that you are recently dating needs to know. You need to get past learning whether you have similar personalities and likes and dislikes before you delve into the big issues.

Think before you spew your opinion- Everyone has an opinion, but sometimes expressing them is potentially hurtful. For example, if you point out that he’s wearing his ratty old shirt again or that he loaded the dishwasher incorrectly, or he points out that he liked your hair better before you got it cut, then you probably didn’t ask yourself what the effect of saying this would be. If the opinion that you are about to express is not one that will be received with happiness by your partner, then you should keep it to yourself until you find a way of expressing it that does not sound like criticism. Thinking before you spew out a negative opinion will save you numerous arguments, because most times when we blurt out an opinion that is really a criticism we are met with a criticism in return, and an argument is not far behind.

Don’t Ask and Your Partner Won’t Have to Tell- There are certain “loaded questions” that you should never ask in your relationship unless you are a glutton for punishment. Questions that fall into this category are ones like: “Am I prettier than your ex-girlfriend?” “Do you love me more than you loved him?” and the infamous “Does this make me look fat?” All these questions have only one “right answer” and even then, your partner will need to carefully craft an answer to avoid saying the wrong thing. Unless you are trying to deliberately assess your partner’s ability to tap dance around delicate issues, no good can come from asking these questions.

So yes, honesty is vital to any relationship, but so is knowing when to keep quiet. Knowing the proper timing to reveal sensitive information about yourself and making sure that your “honesty” is not just criticism are two important considerations before you proceed with what you are about to share. And of course, sometimes the best way to avoid the topics that are irrelevant and potentially hurtful to your relationship is to be proactive by not asking any of the questions that you don’t really want answered.

Thats what i have to say...

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Is your relation intact or is ur lover loosing interest in u....?

Relationships can be made easily and broken easily too...But the broken relations cant be mended easily..What say people..?Click read more to know the signs if your partner is loosing interest in you...!

Relationship is a two way street and it takes the efforts of both the partners to keep it alive. It takes more efforts to maintain a relationship than getting into it. There is always a probability that any relationship can change and one or both of the partners lose love or interest in the other person to stay in the relationship. It is said that if you can fall in love you can fall out of love too.If or not your Boyfriend or Girlfriend has lost interest in you is something which you would be able to know based on his or her behavior or body language. Sometimes even the best of relationships can die down and everything you put up together will go down the drain. However, as long as it is not too late efforts can be put to salvage the relationship and bring back the feelings of love into the relationship. But it is very important to know if your man/woman is losing interest in you so that you can prepare yourself from the inevitable. How to know if your Boyfriend or Girlfriend has lost interest in you? There can be many signs that your relationship is in trouble, your boyfriend or girlfriend may have lost interest in you and may want to dump you.

Does he or she make excuses just not to see you or spend time with you regularly? You don’t go out anymore or do things like hugging or holding hands anymore?

Does your partner ignore you not only in public but in private as well? Does he or she have excuses when you try to be intimate?

Have his/her friends started being aloof with you or are avoiding you?

Is your gut feeling telling you that something just isn’t right with your partner?

Is your partner suddenly become more critical of you and the things you do?

Is your partner irritated by things he / she used to love about you earlier?

She or he no longer is bothered by the fact that you two aren’t getting together as much anymore. There is a major change in your boyfriend or girlfriends behavior and you even avoid communicating.

Your partner no longer notices you the way he/she used to do earlier?

Did you find any signs of infidelity in your partner?
Then take steps in improving your relationships....Dnt loose them at all..All the best,Keep rocking...!
REGARDS,
Sriram Mallik.

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Suggetions to Rakesh by Myself & our readers too

Dear all,thankyou so much for your response...These are the suggestions that i got from our readers along with a solution of mine too..Now the choice is left to you Rakesh..Go through them and all the best..Click read more...!

Suggestion by myself...!

Firstly let me tell you what is the meaning of the phrase that you have sent to me......That every girl commonly uses when something unexpected happens and when she sees you facing a lot of troubles that involve her presence.....
"If i were not in ur life then you wouldnt have faced all these problems..."
"If i move away from your life,probably you wil be much happier..?"
These two lines dont mean that she is ready to loose you but it is a fact that she is the only wellwisher of yours at that instant of time,feeling that if she wasnt there in your life....then this problem wouldnt have come to you and you wouldnt have felt bad at that situation.....And think about her LOVE when she says the second sentence...Though she is not at all ready to loose you,she says that sentence only because she couldnt bear you facing that problems and she is wishing for your happiness...Look Rakesh,a girls mind is as vast as an Ocean...Very difficult to understand completely...When ever she utters that words,you are feeling that she isnt interested any more in you.....Am I Right...?I want to ask you a simple question here....Can u really stay happier without her...?Can u stay cool and calm without thinking of her..?? I guess the answer is NO cause you said you love her....Never ask your mind about the solution regarding your problems because mind always thinks about that particular instant of time...Rather its far better to consult your heart which thinks far beyond its ability to think...I'ld bet you,if you really love her from the bottom of your heart then you cannot stay(without her thoughts)without her upto the maximum extent.....I think if ur stubborn at your heart,you would try to be calm for a couple of days but after that you will surely landup with her thoughts again..Think buddy think...She is the one who is ready to waste her life(by leaving you)just by thinking of a simple matter that you are facing some problems because of her...U can never find such a nice girl other than her who can understand you like what she has been doing,less probabilty(may be nil chances..?)for another girl who loves u FOR WHAT YOU ARE..Never take your friends advice in this matter coz its your life and they cant decide or rule your life...Ask your heart and decide what you wanna do...But as of my view she is perfect to u and that she is obeying the concept of LOVE...Have you ever come accross the concept of LOVe...? It is to respect the interests,happiness of the other lover and acceptance of his/her mistakes as ur life...She felt really bad for you coz u have been facing many problems and she wished you were happy and thats the reason she wanted to leave u feeling that you might live happily...But i think u can never live in happiness after leaving her...i would like to share a small story with you in this time.....

A student asked a teacher, "What is love?"
The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the wheat
field and choose the biggest wheat and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn
back
to pick."
The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big
wheat, but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one later.
Then he saw another bigger one... but may be there is an even bigger
one waiting for him.
Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he starts
to realise that the wheat is not as big as the previous one he saw, he
knew he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted.
So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand. The teacher
told him, "...this is love... you keep looking for better ones, but
when later you realise,
*you have already missed the person*
NEVER MISS YOUR LOVED ONEZ-SRIRAM MALLIK

So dear brother,she seems to be innocent and a nice girl..Indeed you seem the same too but please dont listen to what your friends say...Just do two things...Motivate yourself and try to motivate her towards yourself...You have already won her and now please dont loose her...Listen to what your heart says and try to dedicate the rest of your life to her....Thats what i have to say....For further assistance please feel free to reply me by email...
Wish you both stick together in LOVE and enjoy the fruit of life...Wishing you all the very best and hope to hear something gud from you both...

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

I have discussed the same problem with a friend of mine by name Sampath......He wanted to convey his feelings in this way....check it out

Suggestion by SampathRaj Kumar...!

Hi Rakesh,
Sam here....
Boss, I feel you need to know her inner feelings first......
First take her to some pleasing location..... (i mean it...pleasing)
Cool her.....just ask her true feelings towards you......
say that just be open....so that we can decide our future together for good or bad....say plz be open now atleast....
Just give her some time 15 min like that...you just move away from her not too far...just observe her...

If she says that I want to part from you....dont ask her the reason just ask her are you sure.......just say remind her to be truthful and loyal..give time...If she says the same thing again....have a good farewell for your feelings but have her as your well wisher...no hard feelings naa....Now if she says that your facing problems bcoz of her.........then say that you are just making me learn how to fight in life...you are making me better...you are just building me up....you are just making me strong enough to prosper in this world....in this way you need to cool ger back....just say for good or bad....we need to be together...just end it....take her close...say it again...thats it...girl needs some motivation...

Suggestion by H.K.Raju annaya...!

she is an apt choice for Rakesh. She is the one who is ready to waste her life by leaving Rakesh just by thinking of a simple matter that he is facing some problems because of her...He can never find such a nice girl. Friends maata vinakunda unte his life will b Golden Chariot. Ram ur solution terrific. gr8 going buddy. ATB Rakesh and ur loved one.


Suggestion by Gayathri...!

hello!!!after reading your mail i just understood a famous telugu saying " aalu ledhu soolu ledhu koduku peru somalingam"ani!!!!

sorry to say this rakesh!!!! but i have to.

asalu what kind of problems...ante education,property,family,etc.,etc.,without disclosing any of these things how can u expect someone to suggest u anything?

Moreover first thing u should do immediately do is to stop discussing about her with ur friends!!!


Suggestion by Monica:
Sriram... i understand this it is tough for Rakesh to understand...but its a girls psychology to think that way.....she is just worried about him...that shows care!

-All i can say is that she's worried about him and wants him to be happy...thats it...nothing to think about!


-Girls love to take everything seriously even the slightest thing, trust me its coming from a girl! I think a lot about the slightest thing and make a big deal about it....so Rakesh (Sriram please tell him) don't worry! Everything will be okay!



Thanks a lot friends,I can help to guide him with the suggestions that you all gave...Keep rocking...!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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Love Problem of Rakesh ,Need ur Suggestions

Dear friends,we have a small problem that is to be cleared...I received a mail from Rakesh,a degree student from bheemavaram asking for your suggestions...Click read more to know what the problem is...!

Hey Ram garu,Happy to find you openly giving ur email id asking for any doubts in ur blog...Was in search of a person with whom i can share my problem and luckily could find your blog promising to solve the problems that we have been facing...So felt like writing to you sir...Let me tell you wat my problem is.

I'm K.Rakesh(22),from bheemavaram..Doing my degree final year...Since three years,I'm in a relation(may be love) with my childhood friend's cousin(same age)...Everything is fine except for few small problems due to which our relation is being disturbed everytime.....The actual problem is that when ever anything un expected happens and we were to face some difficult situations,she used to say that "If i were not in ur life then you wouldnt have faced all these problems..."
Thinking in this way,she would say "If i move away from your life,probably you wil be much happier..?"
To be frank Sriram,I am very happy with her despite of the fact that i really faced many problems with her...I never took them serious but why does she think like that...?? She always kept saying that she would move away frm my life even though it may be difficult for her...How awkward it is to listen...?? So i wanted to clear my doubt..Is it better to leave her or to stay with her..?I think she is only interested in our seperation so i wanna leave her...But before leaving i wanted to share my problem with anyone worthwhile......I told my friends and they said "Arey chodhna yaar,you have much more life,hundreds of girls will come for you if u think in that way....Isko lite le kar life enjoy karlo mamu"
Hope you understand HINDI....What they say is that if i think in that way,many girls would be ready to come into my life and they asked me to forget abt her and take her lite......I felt this is not the appropriate answer so i request you to think once regarding this problem and give me a perfect solution that would help me out to be fit mentally...Will be waiting for your reply...And wish you would keep this in your blog cause i feel many would be there with the same problem..Waiting for your reply,
K.Rakesh.


So friends,please feel free to respond to this problem...Post ur opinions on this in the form of comments after reading this...!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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Small advice to tackle problems by your own

Hey friends,andariki oka small advice regarding how to tackle your own problems...Click read more...!

I am no relationship expert. My experience and understanding of relationships and several articles on relationships written on content sites might have earned me this tag and I should admit that I am flattered by all this. I get mails from people whom I don’t even know confiding me about their problems and asking me for advice. Even my friends have always trusted me with their problems and issues whether it is marital or dating and hoped that I will have a solution for them. And fortunately I also have been able to come up with the right advice and counseling too. I have often wondered many times that what the qualities which makes relationship experts. I guess some of these qualities may be listening skills, analyzing things without being judgmental and experience with similar situations.

My belief is that when you have a problem the first place to look for an answer is within yourself. Also if anyone is behaving in a particular manner to you it is mostly because you have given them the reason to behave so. I am a firm believer of ‘what you give is what you get’. I am perfectly alright with my close friends coming with their problems to me. But after seeing some of my Articles based on the relationship issues of my friends I have complete strangers sending me mails asking for support or advice which makes me want to laugh. I sincerely think that such problems should be left to experts. However, through this blog i would be discussing some tips for building good relationships and dealing with problems.

So keep rocking friends,Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN

Some information regarding what DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN is....A post that is dedicated to all women....Click read more..!

There is not even a single day when we do not hear or read about Domestic violence against women. Be it the cruelty of husbands and in laws for dowry or burning the brides irrespective of culture or background women in India are becoming victims of this crime. If we thought that the economic backward or uneducated are those who fall victims to this crime it is not so. The submissive quality in women in India and the general mindset of the society that women are physically and emotionally weaker than the males makes them vulnerable to domestic violence. It is said that in India there is a crime against women in every three minutes.

Who is responsible for domestic violence? The answer is all of us. For us unless it happens to us or someone who is close to us incidents of domestic violence are just news or entertainment. Many of us even when we see or hear such instances even in our neighborhood do not interfere or do anything to stop them. I have already written in this blog about a friend who committed suicide because of the cruelty of her husband and in-laws. Though majority of the people in the nearby flats were aware of this none opened their mouths to ensure that the culprit got punished. Their getting involved would have meant enmity with the neighbor and frequent visits to police or courtrooms which they did not want to happen. If everybody behaves like this and shields the criminals how is this crime going to stop? What is even more annoying is the fact that most victims also prefer to keep silence and do not report such instances. I have personally seen women taking beatings from their husbands without even a word of resistance. For an Indian woman husband has the place of God. How can we expect domestic violence to stop continuing in India when women are still reluctant to report domestic violence to the police and suffer as if it is their duty to their husbands?

What exactly is domestic violence? It is the violence happening within the home towards a family member and can be physical, sexual or emotional in nature. However, domestic violence against women is the most common of all. What we need to understand is if this has happened to a neighbor’s daughter today it can happen with someone close to us tomorrow. As Women need to empower themselves through education and achieve economic independence and freedom. We also need to stop suffering in silence and fight for our rights when someone does wrong to us. If we women do not stand up for ourselves who will? We need to change to see the world change.
source:Relationship articles by blogger zone

So people,think wise,be good and treat them properly....Keep rocking...!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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My Final decision-Need your feedback

Hey friends,here is the decision that i have been thinking off telling you....Click read more...!

Dear friends, I am planning to start an online counseling program.........Specially for girls(Ofcourse for boyz too :D) In this way i will listen to what ever the problem that is faced by a girl in her life,which she hesitates to share with her parents/friends or anyone.....I wish i can be a good friend,a well wisher,a brother to anyone who wants to share their problems no matter what the problem is....We shall discuss those problems with our blog readers and friends too if the problem is very critical......So what say guyzzzz...??Hope i will have ur support....Do let me know your feed back and suggestions :) ?Alone i can do something,but together we can do everything(Naa own quote-ela undi :-P )

Keep rocking...............Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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