1. Too much hope
Do you love him the way he is? Or do you love him the way you want? You want him to do this and that, and you will upset if he does something opposite with what you wish. If you choose this option, don’t need to be surprised if you always feel disappointed, frustrated, and dissatisfied with your love relationship.
Solution:
Searching faults by blaming his imperfection and shortcoming will absolutely sabotage your relationship
with him. You better find the real problem in your relationship, instead of complaining about his lack.
2. Forgive but never forget
Do you always use ‘the old wounds’ to protect your feeling? You forgive your boyfriend but never forget his guilt? You always feel like a victim and intend to change the situation. Well … actually this behavior is the same with bringing old wounds anywhere you go. You let the wounds open just to remind that the wounds were there, and will always be there.
Solution:
If you are still thinking about the old wounds, then you don’t grow and develop in your relationship. It also means that you are hurting yourself. Accept the fact that your partner
has tried to change and he is no longer the same with the person who has ever hurt you. Be wise on facing all problems in your live and keep moving.
3. Excessive jealousy
Excessive jealousy is actually a form of insecurity toward your relationship. You like to use negative feeling such as feeling not beautiful, unattractive, or not sexy in order to get full attention from your couple. If it happens to you, you should understand that the real problem is in you, not in your partner or in the relationship.
Solution:
To overcome this problem, you need to restore your self-confidence and be happy with yourself. However, if this jealousy really makes sense, you have the proofs, and you can not trust him anymore, you have to say frankly. If he’s still having affair behind you, you better leave him rather than stuck in insecure feeling that never ends.
4.Take revenge
You feel jealous when he is close to another woman, then you take revenge by approaching another man. Indeed this way can hurt him just like when he hurt you. However, this will also worsen your relationship with him.
Solution:
Hurting someone who you love wouldn’t make you as a winner. Is this kind of relationship that you want? Instead of competing about something that does not make sense, you better improve the communication quality between you and your partner, with this way both of you can introspect on each other.
5. Passive aggression
You use passive methods such as sulking, angering in silence, avoiding him etc to control your spouse. But do you know, this way not only hurts your partner, but also hurts your relationship?
Solution:
Maybe you can get what you want by using that manipulation way, but still you are not a winner. You better learn how to express what you want through effective and healthy communication. Because if you continue to manipulate him, one day he will feel depressed and finally he will leave you.
So dear readers,hope this information acts as a minimum help to you,atleast to bring a realization in ur minds regarding the way you are behaving with your loved one's.........Understand the requisites of the relations and act accordingly.....Keep rocking....!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
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