Keep rocking,Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Friday, February 26, 2010
Cute pictures for you
Keep rocking,Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Lines by a disheartened Lover :(
If its wrong to love you, I never ever wanna be right again
I hate myself for loving u
Cant break free from the things that u do
I wanna walk but i run back to u, tat is why
I hate myself for loving u.. for putting me through hell.
I wish you loved me the way I loved you but then I remembered, my wishes never come true.
Don't say you love me unless you mean it, 'cause I might do something as crazy as believing it
The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love, love somebody else
You Can Erase Someone From Your Mind..Getting Them Out Of Your Heart is Another Story.
How hurting it is when u feel that the only one who can stop you from crying, is the one who makes you cry
Loving someone forever means loving them even if they love someone else.
True Love burns the brightest, But the brightest flames leave the deepest scars.
Love makes us a little weaker, but in the end "a ditch" makes us a lot stronger n sensible
If You Can't Understand My Silence. You never understand My Words.
I wish my eyes could speak what my heart feels for you, because my lips can lie on what is true.
My eyes couldnt because even if i close them I could still see you.
When I look at you, my heart skips 1 beat but later that beat could mean a lifetime of tears wasted on some thing i knew i could never have!
God can heal a broken heart, but He has to have all the pieces.
You always say you hate to see me hurt, and you hate to see me cry. So all those times that you hurt me, did you close your eyes?
love is defined as the biggest strength of a human being
If in this lifetime, I wont get to have you,
I'll make sure that if I meet you in my next life
I wont have to think twice on saying that "I waited a lifetime to say I love you
You may forget the one with whom you have laughed, but never the one with whom you have wept
when you love some one - you want that person to be happy --even if the happiness is not with you
Love is when you look into someone's eyes,
and see everything you need.
Love means never having to say you are sorry
Love is when two people sit in the middle of a bench when there is plenty of rooms at both end.................!
Isn't that heart touching...?Anyways keep going brother,Life mein eise problems aate hei aur jatey hei...Li8 lelo bhai...Keep rocking,
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Monday, February 22, 2010
Why there is still Life on this Earth..?
The reason for why there is still Life on earth...Special thnx to Raju annaya for sharing such a cute mail...Click read more...!
Threre is still Life on Earth because.......
Love those around you and try to bring happiness to them...Thus Love makes the world go around...."Love Makes Life Beautiful"
My special thanks to H.K.Raju annaya for sharing such a nice mail with us....Keep rocking,
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Threre is still Life on Earth because.......
Love those around you and try to bring happiness to them...Thus Love makes the world go around...."Love Makes Life Beautiful"
My special thanks to H.K.Raju annaya for sharing such a nice mail with us....Keep rocking,
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Saturday, February 20, 2010
Difference between Best friends and Lovers
Are you confused regarding the relationship ie.bwn Friendshp/Love...?Click read more..!
Best Friends and Lovers
The first meeting should be about building a friendship before initiating any physical relationship. The friendship will be the foundation to keep the relationship cemented in place.
If working on a friendship there is no fear of being your self. Trust is built first out of friendship and grows more with every moment you spend reveling information about each others lives. The ability to be vulnerable becomes so easy.
Time is not recognized because of hours of talking to each other, as you hang on to every word spoken.
The attraction starts to build stronger with every contact made with each other. Trust begins when secrets are reveled to each other that have never been spoken to another, this brings you closer.
You are becoming best friends.
You are falling in love, hopelessly in love. You now want each other physically, your minds and bodies on fire. You have desire for each other and it feels wonderful. The first kiss, wow amazing, the passion is building stronger! The Friendship you have makes the emotional connection and sexual attraction explosive, better than just a sexual connection.
This kind of relationship is the strongest. Best friends and Lovers!
Never accept a sexual relationship before becoming friends, emotions become exaggerated and strong. Trust has not been built. Closeness has not been established. Sex alone is not a strong foundation. When the fire and desire of a new sexual relationship dies down you must have the closeness of a best friend. The desire and passion will always have a flame that will ignite to a blazing fire over and over again!
So dear friends,kindly think twice before finalizing your decisions regarding your relationships...Keep rocking,All the best.
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Best Friends and Lovers
The first meeting should be about building a friendship before initiating any physical relationship. The friendship will be the foundation to keep the relationship cemented in place.
If working on a friendship there is no fear of being your self. Trust is built first out of friendship and grows more with every moment you spend reveling information about each others lives. The ability to be vulnerable becomes so easy.
Time is not recognized because of hours of talking to each other, as you hang on to every word spoken.
The attraction starts to build stronger with every contact made with each other. Trust begins when secrets are reveled to each other that have never been spoken to another, this brings you closer.
You are becoming best friends.
You are falling in love, hopelessly in love. You now want each other physically, your minds and bodies on fire. You have desire for each other and it feels wonderful. The first kiss, wow amazing, the passion is building stronger! The Friendship you have makes the emotional connection and sexual attraction explosive, better than just a sexual connection.
This kind of relationship is the strongest. Best friends and Lovers!
Never accept a sexual relationship before becoming friends, emotions become exaggerated and strong. Trust has not been built. Closeness has not been established. Sex alone is not a strong foundation. When the fire and desire of a new sexual relationship dies down you must have the closeness of a best friend. The desire and passion will always have a flame that will ignite to a blazing fire over and over again!
So dear friends,kindly think twice before finalizing your decisions regarding your relationships...Keep rocking,All the best.
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Friday, February 19, 2010
Tips to make good friends
Are you in search of new friends..?? Here are few tips for making good friends...Click read more..!
Making new friends can be sometimes difficult, even though we are in a world where there are billions of people and we are very social creatures. Even though there are a lot of people out there though, a lot of us simply don’t get the opportunities to make new friends or the ‘usual’ ways like making friends through school just haven’t worked out.
It is impossible for us to survive in today’s world without the help of our friends. They are the most important gifts in our lives. There are lots of friends that impact our daily lives. Whether they are our best friends since childhood, or recent associates we have just met, they all play animportant role in our daily life.
Making friends is all about social skill. The world is full of good friends for you. People love those who are easy to talk to and fun to be around. You just have to make them feel that they like you and you’ve got to like them too. Polish your social skills by talking to the people that you meet every day.To make friends, we must learn to appreciate the role of friends and the value they have in our lives.
Here are some important tips to make new friends:
1. Always make friends very carefully. Don’t do something you feel is wrong or which makes you feel uncomfortable. You want friends with whom you feel comfortable, so don’t compromise. Talk about your thinking and ideas with friends and listen to their ideas too.
2. Always be happy and honest with your friends and your friends will reflect. If you are feeling bored, try to look cheerful and you will start feeling good. If you are feeling sad, try to look happy, and sadness will go away.
3. One of the best ways to make new friends is to go out in your community, meet new people. You must be having interests and a hobby in common. This is what will help you inmaking new friends and in keeping a friendship strong, interesting. So join a club or a team in whatever your hobby is and meet new people and make them your friend
4. Easiest way of making friends online is to sign up with a well known friendship site where you can make new friends. Blogging regularly also helps you to find like minded people online as does posting comments in forums. If you have interest in writing you can post comments regularly in online forums and you can get a chance to find a large number of like-minded friends.
You can also take help of chat rooms and social networking sites and messengers like Yahoo messenger and Google talk. Just sign up on these messengers and start making new friends
Hope you will enjoy the rain of friendship.........Keep rocking.
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Thursday, February 18, 2010
Magical feelings,Falling in love...!
Love is the most beautiful and unconditional feeling on earth. This is the thing which can not be learned from some where or from some one but it is a expression of emotion and feeling which can be only feel by that person who has fallen in love.
But it is very important to understand the proper feelings one go through when fallen in love. Although not everyone understands suchbeautiful feelings so this article will help you understand that are you really in love or not
Signs of Falling In Love
1. Concerns About Looks
Once in love you will defiantly be more attention on your looks. You always wanna look great to attract the person to whom you love the most. If you are a girl you will start wearing clothes which makes you look great, make up, eye lashes and all such things. If you are a boy you will be more concern about your clothing, well dressed and well groomed.
2. Change in Attitude
You will be extra concern about how you talk to him/her and other people around.You will try to give you extra in every thing to impress your beloved.
3. Remembering Your Love Interest
Your love will be always in your mind. In free time you will always think about him/her, all the good and happy moments you spend with each other and apparently smiling when remembering your love.
4. Trying to Explore Each Other
You will always trying to explore each other more, the things that make him/her happy or sad or concerned. You will try to take extra care of small things that gives you reason to love even more.
5. Butterflies in Stomach!!
Yes definitely you will be always very excited and nervous when ever you are with him/her or near.
You will try to show your extra efforts to make him/her believe that you deeply concerned about him/her.
6. Time For Romantic Songs
Well love makes you like romantic songs. Suddenly your choice changes from heavy metal songs to soul touching romantic songs. You will try to fit your love story with the stories being told in songs.
If you find yourself fulfilling any of above points then congratulations you are in love with some one.
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
After breakup in relationship....Spcly fr Women
After a Breakup: 6 Secrets to Getting Women Back to normal routine...Click read more..!
Most people know that unexplored emotional baggage carried over from a prior relationship often immediately sabotage even the best of new love interests. The problem is that most people don’t know how to leave it behind, get clear, and move forward--so we get right back into the same crappy relationship that we just got out of.
1. The Embrace change
Start by embracing change. Inevitably, the good, bad, and in-between times of relationships are made up of experiences that change your world. The reason men and women bounce between relationship failures is a result of an inability to embrace change. Maybe they’ll come back? Maybe they are just not ready? The situation doesn’t matter. Life is different now. Life will be different in the future. It is a good thing. Embrace it. Every second spend dwelling in the “what ifs'” of the past are moments not experienced in your spectacular new life. Life is always more thoroughly enjoyed from front seat of the locomotive than standing in the caboose. Find a way to face forward.
2. The Purge
Initiate change in simple ways. Start by rearranging your furniture and cleaning the clutter. Switch out some old picture frames. Find a new shower curtain. Look for a shiny new coffee maker. Even subtle shifts can make you feel more alive. The true root of past relationship discontent and resentment is actually not from your ex’s hours on the couch watching football, but from the stagnation that it represents. Changing things up will give a feeling of movement and growth. Even more, it will give you a clean home to come back to if emotional fireworks erupt on your dinner date with your new prospective partner.
Then on to your closet. Everything that has not been warn in the last 6 months goes in the donation pile. Bringing a friend who supports you is always a good idea. The process is much easier with a good girlfriend to set you straight when you start to get sentimental about the dress worn on your first date with the guy who left you 6 months ago... Trust me, there is a woman at Goodwill right now just waiting to give it a whirl on another first date. Get rid of it. Physical liberation results in mental liberation. Let your past self make room for who you’ve become.
Streamline your finances. Take the time and go online and find a site that allows you to pay all your bills in one place at one time. Envelopes and stamps are a pain in the ass anyway. Knowing exactly where you stand financially makes you appear empowered rather than needy. Especially in today’s economy, guys are looking for a financial partner, not a financial liability.
3. The Check In
Get clear on what happened in the last relationship that caused it to fail. This process is not at all about blaming yourself or your partner; it’s about education. If you were too overbearing or pushed too hard for commitment, take note and ease up a bit on the next guy. No problem. No blame. Men find an independent woman sexy--as long as they still want a man from time to time.
When the last guy had issues he needed to deal with, leave it at that. It’s much like my favorite Seinfeld episode where George goes into a fit when his girlfriend turns the tables and exits the relationship with the standard male exit strategy, “It’s not about you. It’s me” For men, this is often times actually true. It takes us a little longer to make sense of emotionally charged situations and sometimes retreat is the only way we know to make sense of it all. Let it go and move on. It is his loss. 9 out of 10 guys who say it’s over really mean it’s over. Then if he actually comes back after retreat, he’ll have to grovel back to a whole new woman who knows exactly what she wants.
4. The Declare & Have Faith
Then Declare your desires to the Universe. They can be spoken aloud, or just in your own head. The important part is just putting them out there.
Focus in detail on what you want. His laugh. The way he looks at you from across the room. The smell of his cologne. Then imagine how great it will feel to finally share the love that you’ve always wanted, forget about it, and go about your day.
Think of all the things you want in a man for a few minutes each day and then trust that your intention will be fulfilled. Modern men are drawn to women who know what they want and have the conviction to make it a reality. Knowing what you want doesn’t make you a bitch, it makes you rich with self love. Often misinterpreted; desire, faith, and persistence are the backbone to any successful match. Without them, you are at the mercy of the wants and desires of everyone else, whose desires obviously may not be the same as yours. There is nothing wrong with taking control of your destiny. In fact, it is the only way.
5. Opposites Attract, then Always Re-tract
Ever met a guy who seemed mysterious and attractive because his occupation or hobbies were the extreme opposite of yours? His intriguing conversation about things you’ve never discussed before made you feel alive and left you wanting more? You realized you are complete opposites in every way, but can’t help but want to feel the romanticism of Jerry Maguire as he whispered to Rene Zellweger.
Complete bullshit.
Relationships built around opposite lifestyles burn bright and burn fast, yet leave everyone in the darkness before long.
I realize there is about .001% of the population who have actually found a way to make an ‘opposite attraction’ last the test of time, however, for the rest of use rookies in love, it is a disaster waiting to happen.
Men do not change. So be sure that his life as a traveling comedian is something that you can endure even after you’ve memorized all of his punch lines.
Focus on what really matters to you and leave the intrigue of an opposite lifestyle in the friendship zone.
6. Reverse the Curse of the Sexes
It has long been argued that the problem between men and women can be summarized by the following statements,
Women get involved with men with the subconscious understanding that their man will change over time...
Men get involved with women with the subconscious understanding that their woman won’t ever change...
And in the end, both sides are left disappointed.
Why?
It is because we all try to be something that we are not in the courting phase and then slide into ‘who we really are’ over time. Why not just stop the charade and get real?
As a generalization, I have observed that in the relationship arena, most women are fueled by emotion, driven by love, and exalted by romance.
While generally men on the other hand, are fueled by a physical urge, driven by lust, and exalted by a beer and roll in the hay.
Yet, just because we seem to want different things, in the end it is all about feeling loved.
So...just love.
It’s not that simple you say?
Sure it is. If you are honest and forthright about who you are, where you are going, and what you expect from a relationship, what can go wrong? No games. No lies. No waiting five days before returning a phone call. Just be real. Modern movies and media have glamorized a ‘player’ type approach to relationships that is part of the reason half of us end up in divorce court. It is not working. Stop the games and get back to the simple desire of every human being...to love and be loved.
The worst case scenario is that you will find out sooner than later that it won’t work and move on. What’s wrong with that?
Declare your desire in love, have faith, be real, and if what you see isn’t what you want, move on and love yourself enough to hold out for the real thing.
So dear women readers,please dont take anything to heart....Just recover from the incidents that have happened and lead a normal life..Keep rocking..
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Monday, February 15, 2010
Tips to be a good BOYFRIEND :)
Every man wants to be in a beautiful relationship with a woman. It is a natural process because of which a man gets attracted towards a woman. It is a dream for every man to build an unbreakable bond wit his beloved so that they can live there life happily. Girls want to have a boyfriend who is romantic, understanding and whom they can trust forever.
Girls want an honest man who can take care of them and keep standing with them in difficult situations. It is very important to take your love relationship very seriously. Flirting can be healthy upto a limit after which it spoils your love relationship. Girls always look for a caring boyfriend. So it is very important for guys to be emotionally attached to their relationship.
Qualities of a Great Boyfriend:
1. Faithful and Loyal
2. Humorous
3. Loving and Caring in nature
4. Understanding in nature
How to be a Good Boyfriend:
1. Always try to make your Girlfriend Special: Every girl wants to feel that she is the most special girl in this world. So it is upto her boyfriend how he makes her feel special. Always remember special occasions relating to your relationship. Wish her, gift her something different or take her out. This will really make her feel special.
2. Try to make your Girl feel Beautiful and Attractive: It is a dream for every girl to look beautiful and attractive. What a good boyfriend can do is, give her complements on her looks. A girl tries her best to look beautiful in front of her boyfriend, so a healthy compliment will really make her feel good.
3. Share your Happy and Sad Moments with your Girlfriend: A relationship will become stronger if you share happy and sad moments of your life with your girl friend. Always try to share her problems and try to give her good suggestions. This will really increases your value in her eyes.
4. Keep your Girlfriend Happy: Every girl wants to have a boyfriend with good sense of humor. It is also very important for guys to make their girlfriend laugh. It is also very important for a man to know how to please a woman. It makes their relationship beautiful. Always crack a joke or tease her which will really make her laugh.
5. Build Trust with your Girlfriend: Trust is the strongest knot in every relationship which keeps the relationship intact in difficult circumstances. Every girl wants a man on whom she can rely in difficult times. So it is very important for aboyfriend to be loyal and faithful towards his girlfriend.
So friends,Why wasting time thinking much..??Grab your loverz attention and enjoy your time...All the best...
Keep rocking,Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Happy Valentine's Day
Regards,
SriRam Mallik
Reasons behind Celebrating Valentine's Day
Valentine's Day started in the time of Roman Empire. In ancient Rome, Feb. 14 was a holiday to honour Juno, who was the Queen of the Roman Gods and Goddesses. The Romans also knew her as the Goddess of women and marriage. On the following day, Feb. 15, began the Feast of Lupercalia.
The lives of young boys and girls were strictly separate. However, one of the customs of the young people was name drawing. On the eve of the festival of Lupercalia the names of Roman girls were written on slips of paper and placed into jars. Each young man would draw a girl's name from the jar and would then be partners for the duration of the festival with the girl whom he chose. Sometimes the pairing of the children lasted an entire year, and often, they would fall in love and would later marry.
Under the rule of Emperor Claudius II, Rome was involved in many bloody and unpopular campaigns. Claudius the Cruel was having a difficult time getting soldiers to join his military leagues. He believed that the reason was that Roman men did not want to leave their loved ones or families. As a result, Claudius cancelled all marriages and engagements in Rome.
The good St. Valentine was a priest at Rome in the days of Claudius II. He and St. Marius aided the Christian martyrs and secretly married couples, and for this kind deed St. Valentine was apprehended and dragged before the Prefect of Rome, who condemned him to be beaten to death with clubs and to have his head cut off. He suffered martyrdom on the 14th day of February, about the year 270. At that time it was the custom in Rome, a very ancient custom, indeed, to celebrate in the month of February the Lupercalia, feasts in honour of a heathen god. On these occasions, amidst a variety of pagan ceremonies, the names of young women were placed in a box, from which they were drawn by the men as chance directed.
The pastors of the early Christian Church in Rome endeavoured to do away with the pagan element in these feasts by substituting the names of saints for those of maidens. And as the Lupercalia began about the middle of February, the pastors appear to have chosen St. Valentine's Day for the celebration of this new feast. So it seems that the custom of young men choosing maidens for valentines, or saints as patrons for the coming year arose in this way.
Wish you all a very Happy Valentine's Day.
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Friday, February 12, 2010
How to propose a girl...?
How to Propose to a Girl The million dollar question –
How to propose a girl. As hard as it is to understand a woman's heart and mind, so it is hard to prepare for one of the beautiful moments of your life: asking your lover to accept your love.
Step one: planning.
When approaching this exciting and romantic event you might want to take into account a few points to think of:
• What do you enjoy doing together – throughout your relationship you've sure realized what she enjoys doing, and places she enjoys visiting. These experiences should give you excellent ideas of how to propose to your girl.
• Things she told you during your relationship such as: I love bouquets of yellow flowers, I am crazy about chocolate, I think Paris is the prettiest place in the world. All these hints can come as useful guide-lines for you while planning how to propose to a girl.
• Your image of the 'perfect love or marriage proposal' – you are part of the proposal too! It’s not only about her, but about two people uniting as one. Note that you like your idea of how to propose your girl. It’s a beautiful moment and you should both enjoy it.
• Give her a surprise.Dont try a routine method..Think of something innovative and plan in such a way that she will be really excited on getting the plan revealed and should feel that no one is ellgible than you..Hope you will have a wonderful relation that lasts for ever.....
Keep rocking,Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Wonderful Description of love from past experience
Love Described by a Simple Boy:
"
* Love is when my mom kisses me....
* Love is when my dad looks at me the day when he sits on the couch watching TV and I came back from work late night and says Dad,Abhi tak soya nahi..?(Why didnt you sleep untill now dad.?)
* Love is when my Bhabhi(Brother's wife) says, "Hey chotu,I have seen a girl for you".
* Love is when my sister...while doing my work says,"Jab meri shadi hojayegi tab kaun kaam karega tera..? ".(When i get married,whose gonna do your work..?)
*Love is when I'm doing my work and my brother interrupts me saying,"Chod Yaar Kuch khane chalte hei".(Leave the work,lets go out to eat something).
*Love is when my best friend says,"I always miss you".
*Love is when my Girlfriend hugs me without any reason and says,"You are an idiot".
In short Love is to feel the relationships...! "
Thanks a lot Gayathri Vadina for sharing such a cute message..!!!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Simple techniques 2 change Ur Best Friend Into Ur Girlfriend
Few techniques to Turn Your Best Friend Into Your Girlfriend....Click read more...!
Thinking of ways to turn your best friend into your girlfriend may have gotten you a migraine by now, thinking of just confessing your feelings is enough to drive you mad, what more is there when you actually make her more than your friend?
To be totally frank about it, this feat is not something you should stress so much about.
Falling for a friend is normal, you need not condemn yourself for feeling that way.
Instead of feeling all down and miserable about this sudden "curse" established to you, try to be a little optimistic now, for a change. Below are the top five techniques to turn your best friend into your girlfriend, sooner than you expect it!
= Stop acting as "just a friend". Make her feel that you want to be more than just friends, without confessing your feelings just yet.
Be a bit more flirty, possessive and protective of her. Tell her she's pretty, be a bit romantic, she will definitely start to see you in a different light.
= Don't be too available 24/7. Make her miss you! And from there, she'll be thinking more of you, its one way of making her fall all over for you --- without too much of an effort on your side. Disappear for a while, don't return her calls, tell her you're busy, whatever it takes to make her wonder what you're up to.
= Flatter her out of the blue. Get her off guard, women all tend to love a bit of a surprise every once in a while. Hold her hand, hold her close, tell her you're falling for you, on the time when she least expects it. Don't be scared, give in to your impulses and be spontaneous.
= Send her something nice. Don't just stick to the basic like roses and chocolates. Try a something new. Know the things she likes and get the idea from there. Make a little twist with it and show your side of being creative, something that she will definitely like and remind her of you.
= Try holding her hand. When all things fail (if she doesn't seem to get your message or can't tell you're actually flirting), look her in the eye and hold her hand. Do it for a good three seconds then let go, that's enough to ride her nuts, and a great chance to make her fall for you.
So friends,I wish you all....All the very best....Keep rocking :)
Regards,
Sriram Mallik
Thinking of ways to turn your best friend into your girlfriend may have gotten you a migraine by now, thinking of just confessing your feelings is enough to drive you mad, what more is there when you actually make her more than your friend?
To be totally frank about it, this feat is not something you should stress so much about.
Falling for a friend is normal, you need not condemn yourself for feeling that way.
Instead of feeling all down and miserable about this sudden "curse" established to you, try to be a little optimistic now, for a change. Below are the top five techniques to turn your best friend into your girlfriend, sooner than you expect it!
= Stop acting as "just a friend". Make her feel that you want to be more than just friends, without confessing your feelings just yet.
Be a bit more flirty, possessive and protective of her. Tell her she's pretty, be a bit romantic, she will definitely start to see you in a different light.
= Don't be too available 24/7. Make her miss you! And from there, she'll be thinking more of you, its one way of making her fall all over for you --- without too much of an effort on your side. Disappear for a while, don't return her calls, tell her you're busy, whatever it takes to make her wonder what you're up to.
= Flatter her out of the blue. Get her off guard, women all tend to love a bit of a surprise every once in a while. Hold her hand, hold her close, tell her you're falling for you, on the time when she least expects it. Don't be scared, give in to your impulses and be spontaneous.
= Send her something nice. Don't just stick to the basic like roses and chocolates. Try a something new. Know the things she likes and get the idea from there. Make a little twist with it and show your side of being creative, something that she will definitely like and remind her of you.
= Try holding her hand. When all things fail (if she doesn't seem to get your message or can't tell you're actually flirting), look her in the eye and hold her hand. Do it for a good three seconds then let go, that's enough to ride her nuts, and a great chance to make her fall for you.
So friends,I wish you all....All the very best....Keep rocking :)
Regards,
Sriram Mallik
Sunday, February 7, 2010
A self-test for LOVE
Are You Fit To Love? is the most important question we'll ever ask ourselves. Let's face it, our relationships are extremely important. In fact they are the essence of our lives. Yet, for many relationships are the cause of pain and struggle often rendering us powerless to bring about positive changes. Single or not, societal standards convince us that when it comes to relationships we can have it all. As a result we have developed a pervasive “what's-in-it-for-me” attitude with an emphasis on superficiality. In addition, much of the available relationship advice compels us to go after everything we want from our partners. Sadly, for many it is not working. Climbing divorce rates and an increase in the number of singles seeking love are proof that our behavior and attitudes are counterproductive. We need to be reminded that being in a relationship is really about being with another person.
Our expectations of each other have become highly unrealistic. Rarely do we look in the mirror and ask: Do I give what I am asking from my partner? Am I fit to love? We resent each other for unmeet expectations. When the resentment grows faster than our love and respect for each other, lovers turn into enemies and relationships into war zones. Today's relationships are failing because of deterioration of characters. It is time we made a point of building long-term relationship success based on the strength of our characters, instead of clever-minded relationship rules and strategies.
Great relationships require great characters, a fact that will never ever change. Our relationships are only as good as we are. We simply must become better people for each other. Becoming fit to love is a relationship reality check that forces us to look in the mirror and become inspired to create a better character within. This powerful wake-up call is not for the faint-hearted, but for the brave. It will dramatically improve our relationships or our chances of finding love.
The happiest people are those in exceptional relationships. We admire and even envy these people. They are heavily invested in their most valuable asset: their relationship and have an abundance of life's most precious commodity: love. They all have one thing in common: they are fit to love. At the heart of all exceptional relationships are three universal principles: mutual respect, moral responsibility and authenticity. Unless we understand and apply these principles our relationships will be subject to resentment, frustration and uncertainty. Being fit to love is taking a radically different approach to successful relationships and here is what it means:
1. Mutual Respect: Your partner is just as important as you are.
Our partner's dreams, hopes, wishes and expectations are as important as our's. This principle requires us to be unselfish and think of our partner as our equal. Given that our generation has made history as ambassadors of our “me first” society, we are more concerned with getting what we want than thinking of another. For Bill everything revolves around golfing. He spends every weekend at the golf course while his wife Jane looks after their two small children. Extra money from their already tight budget is spent on Bill's hobby. Stuck at home with toddlers, Jane has very little freedom or money to do or buy anything special. Despite Jane's complaints Bill seems completely aloof to the fact that he is behaving disrespectfully.
How differently life turned out for Karen and Lucas even though they experience a huge interest-clash. Madly in love, they are making future plans. Karen wants to live in the city in a squeaky clean condo with nearby shopping, restaurants and cultural events. Lucas loves the country, gardening and pets. The differences don't end here. She prefers fine dinning and classical music. Lucas likes roadhouse cuisine and modern beats. This sounds like trouble, but by honoring their opposing beliefs they turned their dilemma into a real bliss. They moved to a small town in between the city and the country. Karen couldn't help but fall in love with the puppy Lucas brought home, even though she was dead set against pets. They simply focused on the positive in their diversities and embraced the richness of each other. They respected their differences and did not insist on their own views. As a result they deepened their love and now live the best of both worlds.
Relationship conflicts arise because of different perspectives and beliefs. Lovers find themselves arguing over who is right, instead solving the issue in their mutual best interest. The ongoing struggle over unresolved issues leads to resentment and frustration even when there is love. Love and respect take a backseat and the relationship deteriorates. This is not only a dangerous game but also the reason why many relationships fail, when they shouldn't. This downward spiral continues unless we stop wanting to be right and be in control. Instead of trying to change each other or putting our needs first, we must realize that our partner is just as important as we are. In grabbing hold of our partner's beliefs or buying a share of his or her dreams we show that we respect our partner as much we do ourselves. If conflict arises and we cannot agree on a solution, we should simply agree to disagree and continue to talk with respect and honesty. Without true mutual respect, it is impossible to create loving relationships with staying power. Being fit to love is the realization that another her person is just as valuable as you.
2. Moral Responsibility: You are always morally responsible to those with whom you have relationships.
We live in a society that elevates self-fulfillment above anything else and the term moral responsibility is hardly part of our vocabulary. We seek self-fulfillment at any cost, even at the cost of others. Regardless of how many times we have heard that we are not responsible for our partner's happiness, we are responsible for his or her well-being. Love is still a moral responsibility to another person. In our relationships we have the power to make each other feel exceptional or miserable. How often do we blame our partners if things do not work out without looking in the mirror to see our own character flaws. We are far more likely to make excuses for our behavior not realizing that everything we think, say or do affects those we love.
Jennifer had lunch with her friend Sally at a quaint restaurant. Jennifer could barley wait to share the details about the blissful affair she is having with this young stud. Sally listened in awe as Jennifer blamed her so-called inattentive husband, Paul. It was a strange twist of fate that Paul sat behind the flower-decorated lattice wall listening to every word his wife said. From here on everyone's life took a different dimension. Jennifer had deceived her husband Paul, betrayed her word, disregarded her children and lost the respect of her friend Sally. This is a high price to pay for moments of sex. What Jennifer thought, did and said affected the lives of those she loved. She had shed her moral responsibility towards those who counted on her.
In our quest for better relationships, we must make our relationship a priority. We must focus on our relationship not elsewhere. As Mary O'Hara said: Love cannot survive if you just give it scraps of yourself, scraps of your time, scraps of your thoughts. We are responsible for the state of our relationships. Realizing that we are indeed morally responsible to those we love is vital to being fit to love.
3. Authenticity: True love only happens when you are real.
Have you ever found yourself laughing simply because everyone else did? Agreed with your partner's opinion even though you didn't share it? Told your lover you had a fabulous time when you didn't or said: “I love you” when you didn't mean it. In other words did you ever do something inconsistent with your true self just to please someone, get attention or get what you wanted? Of course we all have. We have lost the bravery to be real!
For many there is quite a gap between the person inside and the person they present to the world. How about Toni, the dad who rents a Porsche to impress his date, while being delinquent in child support. How authentic is that? Laura, owner of a marketing firm, supports and votes for the political party most of her clients belong to. Yet, she neither has faith in the candidate or the agenda of this party. Debby spends every Sunday at Grant's parents but resents it. To keep the peace she refrains from claiming some of these Sundays on her own terms. Donna, a serial dater knows how to pick guys. As soon as her friends find her new dates socially unacceptable Donna dumps them. Donna no longer takes the time to get to know her dates. Instead she allows her girlfriends to decide for her.
To be validated by our lovers or to be socially accepted we often compromise who we are and what we believe in. Conditioned by our environment we have become products of the culture we live in and are in somewhat disconnected from our identities. No matter how good we are at playing roles for each other, eventually we encounter role conflict and our truth emerges. True love does not unfold unless we are real. Being fit to love means being real. It means removing all the layers of pretense and becoming vulnerable. When we are authentic our relationships become real and we never have to doubt them. To love, we need to know each other the way we know ourselves. Love only works when we are real! Our authentic self is the best of us. It is where our goodness lies imbedded in the strength of our character. To be fit to love we must encourage authenticity in each other.
Regardless of the state of our current relationships or how unsuccessfully we have tried to find love we have the power to radically improve our circumstances today. The three principles of being fit to love are as true today as they will be twenty years from now. Mutual respect, moral responsibility and authenticity are the essence of exceptional and loving relationships. Because people in exceptional relationships are fit to love, they are positive role models in becoming better human beings for each other. They put love before every thought and action.
In the process they reap some profound rewards:
* People in exceptional, loving relationships live much happier lives
* They cope far better with stress
* They have better sex more often
* They laugh more often and have more fun
* They are healthier and live longer
* They are more optimistic
* They complain less
* They feel validated and needed
* They feel more secure and stable
No wonder we envy these people. Their relationships are like rock-solid anchors. In times like these, laced with tremendous uncertainty and uproar, their love shields these couples from the restlessness most of us experience.
Mahatma Gandhi said: “A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave”. Let's be brave!
Dear readers...So select your position in handling the relations and enjoy your life...!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Luv @ 1st sight
Love at First Sight. Perhaps, it is the most romantic thing that can happen to anyone. It makes people lose their heart and mind within a matter of several seconds. Love is a very strong emotion which, sometimes, is even impossible to control. Love at first sight can happen anywhere, anytime - in a subway, while walking on a street, or seeing a beautiful face from across the room ...
People who haven't experienced love at first sight themselves, probably don't believe that it can be real. There are many skeptics who say it is just passion or lust that attract people to each other, and refuse to believe that one can really fall in love with another person at the first moment their eyes meet.
And do you believe in love at first sight? Some scientists after studying human brain activity noted that it is quiet possible, but everyone is free to believe or not to believe. There are people who really experienced this wonderful moment. They say that as soon they have raised their head and met those eyes, they instantly knew that they were looking at the person of their dreams.
Psychologists say that love at first sight depends on our psychological state at the very moment. Sometimes we will not even notice those charming eyes, and other times they can deeply impress us. Also they say we need approximately 30 seconds to fall in love or, to be more precise, to establish whether the person is attractive, and a potential mate. By the way psychologists claim that men fall in love first.
"The study gets at the basic perceptual aspects in mating," said psychologist Jon Maner of Florida State University, who decided to find out how people react on strangers they have never met before. "It shows how quickly, strongly and automatically people are attuned to physical attractiveness whether looking for mates or guarding their mates from potential rivals," he added in an interview.
In the study university students were shown pictures of very attractive or average-looking people for just one minute, and after that they were asked to look at other things. The reaction time of the participants was measured, after what the psychologists were able to determine that half a minute was enough for students to decide if someone is attractive. The researchers also noticed that people fixated on attractive faces for half a minute longer after the one minute time limit.
"These are the kind of people we might prefer as romantic partners, but it doesn't mean we'd be able to have a relationship with them because highly-attractive people are very sought after," said Maner.
A lot of factors play role in the situation of falling in love from the first sight. When you fall in love at the first sight you are usually ready and willing to do so. There is less chance that it will occur when you are tired, depressed or your head is exploding with problems. The main part in falling in love is given to the physical appearance, voice, gestures and smell. One person intuitively searches in the other the qualities and the features he likes and enjoys the best. It is a known fact, that beautiful people attract attention the most, but sometimes it is wrong to fall in love with them right away, because those people are most probably spoiled by attention from others as well, and, therefore, might not even notice you, or simply leave without attention.
So how is it possible to understand if what happened to you is love at first sight?
1. First of all, try to understand what is the first thing that got into your mind when you saw a person. If the first thought is physical, then it probably is not love. But if you are excited and overwhelmed by a desire to get to know the person better and take things slowly so they work out for you, then it might be a good sign for a deeper relationship.
2. A person's attractive physical qualities are something that anyone can see and appreciate, but when you really fall in love with someone, it means that you will not appreciate and notice only his/her physical appearance, but also will notice other qualities that no one else can see. If you are able to notice such features, but your friends, for example, are not, then it is another good sign that you might be falling in love.
3. Falling in love with someone means wanting to know everything about that person, from their likes and dislikes to their life experiences. Just have patience to learn about them slowly, be understanding and supportive, and at the end, everything will work out for you in a best way.
Still, the cases when people really had fallen in love from the first sight and lived a long and happy life after are very rare. People may dream of a beautiful stranger that waits for them just around the corner, and sometimes it takes patience and time to find a real love. People must understand that this kind of things do happen, but not as often as they would like them to. And if out of nowhere you just suddenly start feeling the growing wings behind your back, still try to keep your feet on the ground because if it is really a deep and true feeling, nothing will ever happen to it, but if it is just your illusions that you accept and see as a reality, then disappointment from falling back on the ground can be very, very painful.
So please try to classify your thoughts and select your relation with the other perfectly..
Regards,
Sriram Mallik
Saturday, February 6, 2010
"I LOVE YOU" In Different Languages
Afrikaans - Ek is lief vir jou
Albanian - te dua
Arabic - Ana Ahebak / Ana Bahibak
Armenian - yes kez shat em siroom
Assyr - Az tha hijthmekem
Australian - 'ave a beer'
Bahasa Malayu (Malaysia) - Saya cinta mu
Bavarian - I mog di
Bisaya - Nahigugma ko nimo
Bosnian - Ja te volim (formally) or volim-te
Bulgarian - Obicham te
Cantonese - Ngo Oi Nei
Chinese - gnoy oy na, Goi Oi Lei (Hongkong), Wa Ai Li (Taiwan)
Danish - Jeg elsker dig
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
English - I love you
Esperanto - Mi amas vim
Estonian - Ma armastan sind / Mina armastan sind (formal)
Finnish - Minä rakastan sinua
French - Je t'aime
Gaelic - Tá mé i ngrá leat
German - Ich liebe Dich
Greek - S'agapw
Hawaiian - Aloha wau ia 'oe
Hebrew - Ani ohevet ota
Hindi - Main tumsey pyaar karta hoon(male), Main tumsey
pyaar karti hoon(female)
Hmong - Kuv Hlub Koj
Hungarian - Szeretlek
Icelandic - Eg elska thig
Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
Italian - ti amo
Japanese - Anata wa, dai suki desu
Javanese - Kulo tresno marang panjenengan (formal), aku terno
kowe (informal)
Kannada - Nanu Ninanu Preethisuthidene
Kapangpangan - Kaluguran daka
Korean - SA LANG HAE / Na No Sa Lan Hei
Kurdish - Khoshtm Auyt
Laos - Chanrackkun
Latin - Ego te amo (I used to have Latin in my 1st year at
highschool)
Latvian - Es mîlu Tevi
Lithuanian - As Myliu Tave
Macedonian - Te sakam
Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Saya cinta mu
Malteese - Inhobbok hafna
Mandarin - Wo Ai Ni
Norwegian - Jeg elsker deg
Persian - Tora Doost Darem
Pig Latin - I-yea Ove-lea Ou-yea
Polish - Kocham Cie
Portuguese - Eu te amo (Brazilian), Eu amo-te (continental)
Punjabi - me tumse pyar ker ta hu'
Romanian - Te iubesc
Russian - Ya tebya liubliu
Serbo-Croatian- Volim te
Sign language - Spread hand out so no fingers are touching. Bring
in middle & ring fingers and touch then to the palm
of your hand.
Slovenian - ljubim te
Spanish - Te quiero / te amo / yo amor tu
Swahili - Naku penda
Swedish - Jag älskar dig
Swiss German - Ch-ha di gärn
Tagalog - Mahal Kita / Iniibig kita
Tamil - Naan Unnai Khadalikkeren
Telugu - Nenu Ninnu Premisthunnanu
Thai - Khao Raak Thoe / chun raak ter
Turkish - seni seviyorum
Ukranian - Yalleh blutebeh / ya tebe kohayu
Urdu - Mea tum se pyaar karta hu ( when a guy says it)
Mea tum se pyar karti hu (when a gal says it)
Vietnamese - Toi yeu em
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
Reasons behind INFATUATION
There are some feelings we have when infatuated that we don’t have when we’re feeling love. Some of the “symptoms” of infatuation are; feelings of panic, uncertainty, overpowering lust, feverish excitement, impatience, and/or jealously.
When infatuated, we are thrilled, but not happy, wanting to trust, yet suspicious. There are lingering, nagging doubts about our “partner ininfatuation ” and their love for us. We’re miserable when they’re away, almost like we’re not complete unless we’re with them. It’s a rush and it’s intense. It’s difficult to concentrate. And mostinfatuation relationships have a high degree of sexual charge around them. Somehow being with them is not complete unless in ends in some type of sexual encounter.
Do any of these “symptoms” resemble feelings of love? Hardly. So why do we become infatuated? Where does it come from? Perhaps it’s biological.
When infatuated we experience a surge of dopamine that rushes through the brain causing us to feel good. Norepinephrine flows through the brain stimulating production of adrenaline (pounding heart). Phenylethalimine (found in chocolate) creates a feeling of bliss. Irrational romantic sentiments may be caused by oxytocin, a primary sexual arousal hormone that signals orgasm and feelings of emotional attachment. Together these chemicals sometimes override the brain activity that governs logic.
The body can build up tolerances to these chemicals so it takes more of the substance to get that special feeling of infatuation. People who jump from relationship to relationship may be craving the intoxicating effects of these substances and may be “infatuation junkies”.
When the chemical flood dries up, the relationship either moves into a loving romantic one or there is disillusionment, and the relationship ends...!
So dear readers,please try to differentiate your relationship status in your minds before taking any decisions....Enjoy the fragrance of the relationship thats named LOVE...!
Regards,
SriRam Mallik
Tips for having a lovely relationship bwn two LOVERS
Some lovely tips for having a cute and a perfect relationship between two lovers....Click read more...!
1.Take time to enjoy each other's company.
2. Make every effort to become each other's best friend.
3. Share your dreams with each other. Don't keep them to yourselves, thinking your partner should know them. I know of very few, if any, people that are mind readers.Forgive each other quickly of their mistakes. NEVER go to bed made.Regardless of how angry you are, forgive quickly, and never sleep apart.
4. Tell your partner, "Drive safely please. I love you!."
5. Give each other hugs at least twice a day.
6. Take time to meditate and/or pray together.
7. Spend time with other happy couples - it might just rub off on you.
8. Go to a dance instructor and take dance lessons together.
9. Be the first one to say "I'm sorry" after a disagreement.
10. Respect each other's need for quiet private time.
11. Take long moon-lit walks on the beach, or through the park, while holding hands.
12. Make your anniversary celebration an all day event. If possible take the day off from work, and celebrate your love all day.
13. Make time from your busy schedules for a second honeymoon or a romantic getaway
What ever it may be....try having the most sweetest,cutest,most romantic relationship in the world that is filled with the maximum amount of affection and LOVE...!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
1.Take time to enjoy each other's company.
2. Make every effort to become each other's best friend.
3. Share your dreams with each other. Don't keep them to yourselves, thinking your partner should know them. I know of very few, if any, people that are mind readers.Forgive each other quickly of their mistakes. NEVER go to bed made.Regardless of how angry you are, forgive quickly, and never sleep apart.
4. Tell your partner, "Drive safely please. I love you!."
5. Give each other hugs at least twice a day.
6. Take time to meditate and/or pray together.
7. Spend time with other happy couples - it might just rub off on you.
8. Go to a dance instructor and take dance lessons together.
9. Be the first one to say "I'm sorry" after a disagreement.
10. Respect each other's need for quiet private time.
11. Take long moon-lit walks on the beach, or through the park, while holding hands.
12. Make your anniversary celebration an all day event. If possible take the day off from work, and celebrate your love all day.
13. Make time from your busy schedules for a second honeymoon or a romantic getaway
What ever it may be....try having the most sweetest,cutest,most romantic relationship in the world that is filled with the maximum amount of affection and LOVE...!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
