Saturday, July 31, 2010

HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY.....Check out for my wishes


Dear readers,I wish you all a very Happy friendship day....YOU ARE MY FRIEND AND I AM HONORED.Give thousand chances to your enemy to become your friend, But don ' t give a single chance to your friend to become your enemy..Click read more for special frndshp day mail sent by Anugaru,our blog reader..Thnxx a lot for everyone who have been encouraging me...Click read more..!


Friends..... ...
They love you,but they are not your lover...!
They care for you,but they are not from your family...!
They are ready to share your pain,but they are not in your blood relation.
They are........FRIENDS! !!!!
True friend.......Scolds like a DAD..Cares like a MOM..Teases like a SISTER..
Irritates like a BROTHER..And finally loves U more than a LOVER.


Abbrevation of a FRIEND :-
F - Few
R - Relations
I - In
E - Earth
N - Never
D - Die


A funny cartoon to let you know the importance of having friends...!

Keep rocking,have the happiest friendship day ever...Have a blast...!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik

Thursday, July 29, 2010

TRUE AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE NEEDS TRUST

Trust true and unconditional love....That takes you higher and higher in your life...Improvises your inner character...To know about that click read more...!





We are at a wonderful crossroads of potential right now on our precious planet. For the first time in our collective history, we are capable and prepared to dream a different possibility for earth and all her many life forms. We have within us the balance of love, wisdom and power to bring forth a new reality filled with peace, health, harmony, abundance and genuine joy. Such is the influence we wield in our personal and shared lives.

The challenge we face is the inertia to the path of least resistance, otherwise known as giving in to fear. For millennia, we have chosen this easier route of succumbing to our fearful thoughts and feelings rather than embracing our ability to love unconditionally. Fear, being the mask we wear to cover our self-doubt as creative beings, has led us through innumerable difficulties, traumas and dramas. This seemingly simpler choice has also brought us to the apex of our adventure which is illustrated by our current outward global crisis and individual destructive chaos.

The present circumstances may appear to be dire and at times, almost impossible to overcome. That is what fear creates – the illusion that nothing is possible and that our ability to imagine a different outcome is of no consequence. Each time we embrace our doubt and step into fear, we strengthen its hold upon us and allow it to become our perspective of reality.

There is another choice that beckons to us in each moment too, and it is filled with infinite potential. It is a quieter and more subtle opportunity that is most often ignored because it necessitates being present in the moment with an acceptance of our true nature as self responsible creative beings. It requires courage, strength and determination to delve into our heart, know the divine bond that connects us to all sentient life, and allow our expression to be one of compassion and understanding.

In the beginning, it takes more effort to choose love over fear since we must first overcome our initial reaction to whatever is before us and release the doubt and fear we previously engaged and encouraged. With a deep breath and a sincere willingness, we then allow love to be our guiding intention through our thoughts and feelings. As we learn to trust unconditional love, we experience how this tangible, immutable power steadily brings all things into balance and harmony.

Ultimately, unconditional love becomes the natural path.....Hope the best thingzz happen in your life...Keep rocking...!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Sunday, July 25, 2010

One side Love/Relationship....!

For all the one side loverzz here,here is a small article for you...Might be a bit informative and helpful at the same time too...Click read more...!



Love seems to be the cause of all the happiness and pain in the world. If your love is reciprocated, you will be the happiest person on earth. But if your love is one-sided, that is, if it is not returned to you in equal measure, then it can be a source of great sorrow.

But what really is love? Is true love only the one that is reciprocated? On the contrary, love is a one-way street. Love is what you give, and not what you receive. Love is undemanding, it never asks for anything in return. Though, deep down in our hearts, each one of us knows this, it doesn’t lessen the amount of grief that unrequited love causes.

It takes real strength to accept that our love is not cherished and not even given a second thought. But, what is it then that makes people fall in love so recklessly? Love isn’t a choice. There is good in everyone. And when the good far outweighs the bad in a person in our opinion, we start falling in love. We respect, like and even blindly trust that person. This is what makes the pain of rejection even more difficult to endure. We consider that person as too good to be able to hurt us, and when they do, we are left heartbroken.

One-sided love is like falling in love with the moon. You can only wistfully stare at it, knowing fully that it can never be yours. This feeling may depress you for a while, but people usually get over it.

On the other hand, a one-sided relationship is potentially dangerous. Usually the partner who does not love wishes to gain some kind of advantage from this relationship. He/she will exploit the other in some or the other way. They usually feel no remorse as they use the other individual in order to obtain something in return. Financial or physical exploitation are the most common reasons behind this kind of relationship. Some people also agree to one-sided relationships because they are too weak to say “no”. They would much rather be trapped in a fruitless relationship and give the other a false sense of security than tell the truth about their feelings. In either way, a one-sided relationship will eventually make the “victim” realize that his/her trust has been breached.

So, how can one get over a one-sided relationship? The first thing to do is to break-up at the slightest indication of being exploited. Then, in order to get over your one-sided feelings, you must TRY to stop thinking about them. Keep yourself busy, do anything that keeps your mind occupied. Don’t wallow in self-pity. Tell yourself you are strong and that you can come out of this. And lastly, pledge that you will never give anyone the false impression of being in love with them. Don’t do onto others what you wouldn’t want them to do to you…

So lemme wish all the very best to all the one side lovers...Keep rocking...!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Friday, July 23, 2010

How to Listen to Your Heart

Hey friends,a long awaited article from me...The ways to listen to your heart....They are enlisted here...Do check each of them carefully....Click read more...!




In the West, most people think of the mind as being the source of insight, wisdom, knowledge and guidance. People think that the mind is where they will find the answers to life’s most important questions; it is where they think they will discover how to live. And yet for most people the mind is the seat of ignorance, confusion, and difficulty.

In other traditions, and in my own experience, the heart is the true seat of wisdom and knowledge. The mind get confused; the heart loves. The mind questions; the heart knows. The mind worries; the heart relaxes.

Now don’t get me wrong – the mind can be a very useful tool. When kept in its proper role, it is an incredible asset. But it should remain a servant, not a master.

As you learn to focus on your heart instead of on your mind, you will discover a whole new way of being in the world. You will be able to tap into wisdom, insight, and guidance that you never before imagined.

So consider this as a start for 2011: turn your attention to your heart; connect with the feeling of love, and share your love and gratitude. Are there people in your life who evoke a feeling of love? Did you experience blessings in 2009,2010(till now) that evoke a feeling of gratitude? Focus on these people or these blessings. Let them evoke the feelings of love and gratitude, and let these feelings pour out from you and gently guide your life.

Now one thing about this practice, and about following the path of the heart more generally: I am not promising that it might not be messy. Hearts can be broken. You can share your love and gratitude and have it rejected, and that hurts. You can give everything you have, offer all the love you can, and still feel hurt, betrayed, abandoned, unloved. There might be bumps, bruises, cuts, and scratches as you offer your tender heart.

But in my experience these pains and these hurts are never the end – they aren’t the final say. They don’t have the final word. The more you love, the more you give, the purer your heart becomes. Now this does not mean deplete yourself, abandon yourself, or deny yourself. Quite the contrary: it means love yourself completely; give yourself everything, and let this love become your life.

Always start by offering yourself love first. When you truly love yourself, you love others. For when you know how to love yourself, your heart becomes full. And your love begins to flower – it begins to bloom. You can begin to offer it, without regard for whether it gets returned or not. Your love might be returned; it might be reflected back to you. It might be rejected and denied because of someone else’s closed heart. But it does not matter. None of that matters. Because the love lives you; the love gives you. Your life becomes an expression of love and is complete in-and-of itself.

And the more this love flowers from within, the more beautiful the world becomes. Unexpected blessings flow into your life; grace finds you and begins to penetrate your being.

So in 2011, let your love flower. Love is not another item on your to-do list. Simply let it flower. Let it grow within your heart and radiate outward. And from this place of fullness, offer love to yourself, offer love to others, offer love to the Divine. Let your entire life become an expression of love and gratitude, for this life is truly an exquisite gift to be both given and received.

Keep rocking..!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Friday, July 16, 2010

Is ur relation a true love or just signs of infatuation..??

Judge the status of your relationship all by yourself....Differentiate between true love and just fatal infatuation/attraction...To know more,click read more....!


Falling in love - someday it will happen to you. You will find yourself suddenly falling in love and it will amaze you.

You can't run away from it.

Love eventually catches up with everyone. It may be sooner or later. Whatever the time, however long it takes, you can be absolutely sure someday you will fall head over heels in love with someone.

But that is not the scary part.

The part that scares most people is the fact that love sometimes tend to be blind - or so it seems.

The truth is . . . true love is hard to come by. Real love is rare.

When you finally find something that seems like true love, you grab it with both hands. You invest everything you've got in it. Unfortunately, you may find out months later that it isn't real love.

You have been chasing a dream!

That brings us back to the really scary part. Love tends to be blind. People falling in love tend to be irrational and illogical. The love emotion takes over. Thereafter nothing else matters.

Why is this scary?

The answer is simple. Love can be destructive. Love, blind love, can ruin your life.

Yes, some kind of love is blind love. This kind of love is infatuation.

True love or real love, is constructive and up-building. True love is . . .

Realistic
Compassionate
Considerate
Unselfish
Practical and down-to-earth
Blind love or infatuation is unrealistic, selfish, and destructive.

When falling in love, ask yourself what kind of love you are falling into. Is it true love or infatuation? Is your love based on unselfish and realistic expectations or on a fantasy?

Consider an example of how blind love, infatuation, can be.

Sharon was from a decent and wealthy home. She was an undergraduate who had everything she wanted. She was astoundingly beauty and well-trained and cultured. Understandably, suitors came in droves.

Her father's wealth poured her way so she was rich in the accepted sense of the word. The suitors asking her hand in marriage were just as rich. Many had an enviable social status.

However, Sharon just wasn't interested. Marriage wasn't in her books yet. And when she decides to get married, she would marry the man of her dreams. So she said.

Eventually, Sharon fell in love. Unfortunately, her lover was a rude shock to everyone including her parents.

Sharon's boyfriend was a heroine smoking cult boy with an attitude. He wasn't exactly crazy about her. But she footed his bill and paid his way to smoking haven. So he put up with her.

Sharon, on the other hand, was madly in love. She saw something in him she hadn't seen anywhere else. Her boyfriend, Larry, was broad shouldered, tall, tough, raw, bold, unrelenting, and daring. He could stare death in the face and not bat an eyelid.

Her boyfriend was a real man!

Sharon was madly in love with Larry and there was no stopping her. Her parents could not understand why their rich and well-breed daughter fell in love with a poor heroine smoking gangster. Her friends couldn't understand either.

Can you feel Sharon's love? Do you understand why her gentle soul fell for a heroine smoking gangster?

Sharon fell in love with a dream - a bold, daring, no nonsense, dare devil guy. He had the looks and the heart of a lion. She admired that bravery, that manly boldness. Soon that admiration turned to love. And there was no stopping her.

However, she's on the wrong road.

True love is not based on physical attraction. Physical attraction eventually fails as people get older and age. What counts most is spiritual virtues - your lover's endearing and up-building lovable personality.

A heroine smoking gangster will eventually get into trouble and land himself in jail. A cultist gangster takes delight in beating people up and fomenting trouble. Sooner or later, if they get married, she may become a battered wife.

Do you get the point?

Infatuation is blind, physical, destructive. True love is clear-sighted, up-building, refreshing.

True love, real love, is based on realistic expectations and facts. It is selfless and works for the good of her partner. Infatuation, on the other hand, doesn't care about reality. It focuses on the physical and immediate gain.

Evaluate your feelings properly before continuing with that love relationship.

Relationships based on true love lasts forever. Relationships based on infatuation are usually temporary and momentary. That is the very reason why some marriages last two weeks, some seven days and still others, a lifetime.

The difference is true love. Real love is true and lasts forever.

Thinking of falling in love?

Make sure it is real love. Evaluate your lover’s potentials in relation to your desires and relevant reality - what is known and proven to make relationships last.

Hey, fall in love the right way. It's your life. It's your future. It's your happiness at stake.So take care...Keep rocking...!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Treat every one equally...A real life example..Please respond to this article








An incident that made me think very much...Click read more...!


I have witnessed this incident while i was going to a near by store...To get provisions that my parents have asked me to get them....Actual scene was a conversation between the shopkeeper and a scavanger(sanitation care taker)of my street.....

Actually that guy(may be around 45-50 years) worked all day long,and was tired...So he went to a shop nearby....At this time i was buying some provisions.....That
clearer approached the shop keeper and asked for a packet of water....And while receiving that packet of water,he handed the money to the shopkeeper...Immediately the shopkeeper didnt take the money directly bt instead he asked the guy to keep it there on the table and leave...Later on after he left,the shopkeeper started to clean the table mainly at the region where the person had kept the money...I was astonished by this...the shopkeeper started saying that THE PERSON WORKS WITH GARBAGE,UNTIDY FELLOW...IF HIS HAND WAS PLACED ON THE TABLE,IT MIGHT GET SPOILT...SAYING THUS HE STARTED SHOWING SIGNS OF UNTOUCHABLE NATURE...

I really didnt like this attitude...so i straight away told the shopkeeper that his attitude was wrong...and that never act in such a manner once again...I also asked him a question...If all the cleaners and sanitary caretakers were to stop working for a couple of days then what would be the situations..??Its because of their sacrifise,their work and their dedication that we are leading a healthy life..Except for a few,they are truely dedicated for the welfare of the public isnt it..??Then why to treat them as untouchables...??
Never treat people as untouchables by seeing the work they do/by the caste they are or by their status...remember that they are humanbeings like us,but just leading that particular life becoz of the fate....!
Please think wise before saying anything..think once before acting and before behaving to anyone..Coz your behaviour might be hurting sometimes... Please understand what i wanted to say coz i know i am unclear in this matter...Didnt know the way to convey the message...Dont mind...Keep rocking...
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Monday, July 12, 2010

Differentiation between THINKING WITH YOUR MIND AND THINKING WITH YOUR HEART





Which is the better option...Thinking with your Mind or Thinking with your HEART....??To know a better explanation of the two,click read more...!



We are at a beautiful moment on this planet where a new world is being birthed based on integrity, dignity, harmony, peace and love. The most obvious signs that this is well underway is that everything is changing and nothing seems to make sense. In fact, in many ways it appears to be the total opposite of an emerging new world. We are witnessing lies, deceit, greed, extreme wealth and poverty, sickness, destruction, dis-ease, dis-honor, addictions, abuse, and environmental chaos, along with countless other named and unnamed calamities and certainly little evidence of peace or love. Yet appearances can be deceiving in themselves and what we see and perceive is only a tiny fragment of the bigger picture.

Over the past several years, one of the regularly recurring themes we encounter with The Love Foundation is that so many people we connect with are hopeful of a better world and at the same time they are sincerely troubled by the one they appear to be presently experiencing. They know in their hearts that life is not meant to be a struggle filled with so much fear and doubt, yet they find it difficult at times to reconcile the seeming chaos and atrocities that are bombarding them from every seeming angle internally and externally. What if we stepped back and set aside our endless judgment for a moment and looked at the bigger picture? What if we stepped into the realm of our heart and began to listen to its wisdom?

When we stop and truly and genuinely look around, what do we see and what are we really experiencing? What is our mental and emotional filter of life and how is this affecting our current perspective? Do we perceive our reality as an observer or are we still allowing ourselves to be caught up in the drama like a character actor in a play? If it is the latter, do we know how to shift our perspective to see a larger view and a greater whole? Is there a way that we can connect with the real peace and love that already exists within? Is unconditional love a key that unlocks this potential?

Our mind has been the thinker for millennia and now it is time to move our energy into the heart and begin to think from this vantage point. By expressing from the heart, we can do something different in our own lives to shift our experience and in turn, the reality around us. Coming from unconditional love, we move out of the duality and polarity of right and wrong, good and bad, and begin to share that which we already are... powerful, wise, loving and lovable beings of immense talent, creativity, compassion and strength. Not to mention, individuals filled with integrity, dignity, harmony, peace, and love.

Shifting from one reality to another always includes a phase where the old gives way to the new and this often takes on the momentary appearance of chaos, strife, the need to let go of the known and a courageous willingness to allow the new to manifest. Underlying this or any transition is the loving intelligence that guides us between worlds and emanates from our own heart. No matter what the appearance, the heart knows the bigger picture and from this grander perspective we can make a profound difference.

Make a choice today to suspend judgment and relax into what simply is. Let go of what you mentally think is going on and center your awareness in the heart. Be present in the now and experience the only moment that is real and tangible. Breathe. Allow. Be at peace and you will know peace. Share your unconditional love and the world will know love.

So friends,think with your mind for a spontaneous solution and think with your heart for a better solution...Coz LOVE is something that needs the assistance deep from the heart...So,Keep rocking...!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.


Sunday, July 11, 2010

Are you really HAPPY...??Check this article to know true facts









Hey friends,Are you really Happy?? Just ask this question to yourself....What ever might be the answer,Just go through this article and at the end,check out if the first answer you have made for the question at the starting matches with the answer at the end of teh article..Click read more...!



Do you remember some of your beautiful childhood memories? Do you remember the joy you felt all the times you played with your friends? Do you remember how fast you used to become angry, and how fast you forgot what you were angry about? OK, one more… Do you remember how happy you were when you ate candy? When we were kids being happy came easy. What about now? Are you happy? As children we could have answered this question without hesitation. What happened to us?

I shared the same question with a friend who seems to have it all. He answered with great enthusiasm, "Of course I'm happy, I have everything I always dreamed of having." Few seconds later he said, "but I believe I could be truly happy if only I had a better wife ..." Well, psychologist’s philosophers, parents, poets, and many others have tried answering this question, since it is a simple yet complex question. But to me, happiness is something different for each individual. Happiness can be something uncertain or difficult to achieve, but overall, it is attainable.

I cannot remember how many times I was asked this question. Neither do I remember how many times I asked myself the same question. "Are you happy?" The truth is that nobody can answer that question better than you, yourself, can. Don’t be a pessimist! Did you think I would give you the answer so easily? Allow me to ask a question: Why do you wake up each morning? (Money, love, health, obligation, fame, family, ect.)
A man of 43 years of age, with a family, and good job, but he was always sad. Yet no one understood the reason for his sadness. In prayers he asked God to send him lots of money, to enjoy when he became old. Early Sunday morning, he went into the forest to pray. On his return home, he found a small old chest in the bushes. Once he opened the small old chest, he noticed it was full of gold coins. Overwhelmingly happy, he placed the box inside his jacket, and with great excitement he ran home. After digging a deep hole behind his house —not sharing his discovery with anyone— he buried the chest. That afternoon his wife and children saw the new happiness in his face and even though they didn’t understand it, they welcome his positive change.

Yet, that evening robbers who followed him that morning, dug up the small old chest that was buried. Then the robbers quickly covered the hole, exactly as the man himself had previously left it. Months passed and the man was much happier everyday, leaving everyone to wonder the reason for his change. Later, due to his dedication and skills he became the boss of bosses. Everyday he thought of his wealth, while enjoying his family, his job, and his friendships. Without noticing that the small old chest was gone, every day he gave thanks to God for his blessings. As years went by he grew older, and continued to enjoy the blessings in his life. Then one Sunday morning, he passed away in his sleep.

You can choose to be the small chest, the robber, or the happy man. You can always choose to be happy or unhappy. You can choose to enjoy today, complain about the life which you live now, or change your life to what you want it to be. Whether you wish to exercise your happiness or not, the final decision is yours. To take this a little further, here are three questions you should ask yourself:

1 - What happiness means to me? To be happy, you have to define it and understand what it means to you. 2 - Do I enjoy the person I am today? Do you respect or like the person you see in front of your mirror? Learn to forgive and accept what you are today, if you haven’t yet. 3 - Do I give thanks for the things I already have? Be thankful for all you already have in your life (health, life, love, etc.).

If you try to blame the past, destiny, the universe, God, or others for the lack of happiness you have experience now, you will not find true happiness. If you are now happy or unhappy, this is because you decided it. Let me give you an example: If I offer you candy, and you do not accept it, you are the one who chooses not to enjoy the delicious candy. However, if you accept the candy, and you do not thank me, I may not feel the desire to offer you more of my delicious candy in the future. Happiness works likewise. If you stop for a moment and make calculations regarding the decisions you've made, you may realize that they have brought you exactly where you are today. It is all based on your actions, thoughts, and words.

"Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present." (Jim Rohn)

Therefore, everything you think, speak, or practice in the present affects your future. The good news is that if you're not happy now, you can change it. Be happy by changing the way you think, and act towards your own life. Your destiny is in your hands, not in the hands of your significant other, your parents, your boss, or your friends. God, the universe, your divine creator, is ready to give you everything you desire, and even more than you can imagine. But it's your choice to accept the candy called happiness if you want it, and when you want it.

If you are about to cross a bridge, do not think about the gap underneath the bridge; Think about what you will feel after crossing that bridge. Decide to be happy, and always be honest with yourself. Give thanks for what you already have today, and tomorrow you may have much more to be thankful for. Always remember, you deserve to be happy!

SO guys and galzz....Friends and folks.....Just rock your life...Live as if there is no tomorrow...Enjoy every moment of life...Be happy and make others happy...Keep rocking...!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Friday, July 9, 2010

Love yourself and all the rest would follow u

Love yourself and you will learn a lot of things in ur life...Click read more to know the inner meaning ;)


How do you feel about self love? More importantly, how well do you love yourself? For most of us, loving ourselves is something we may know is important, but often have difficulty actually feeling, expressing, and embodying.

For me, I’ve spent much of my life – as a student, an athlete, in business, in relationships, and in general – demanding perfection of myself, and of course, falling short and then feeling inadequate on a regular basis. Most people I know and work with have some version of “I’m not good enough” that runs their life, their work, and their relationships.

As we lead up to Valentine's Day this weekend and think about the important people in our lives whom we love (or the fact that we wish we had more love in our lives), much of our focus tends to be outward and not inward.

Self love is what we're all searching for – in our work, our relationships, and our lives. Sadly, we spend most of our time thinking that someone or something else can give us what only we can give ourselves. To be truly fulfilled in life and relationships, we have to find the love within us and give it to ourselves. No other person, material possession, or accomplishment can do it. It’s up to us.

Especially when it comes to relationships, self love is essential. One of the best gifts we can give to the people around us is to love ourselves in a genuine way. As my mom used to say to me when I was young, “You can’t love anyone else, until you love yourself.”

Here are a few things to think about and practice as you deepen your own capacity for loving yourself:

1) Notice your relationship to self love. How do you feel about it, how comfortable are you with it, and what resistance do you have to loving yourself? Being honest about your own relationship to self love is the first step in altering it. Many of us have not been encouraged or taught to love ourselves. We have also not seen many healthy models of self love around us. And, we’re often much better at being hard on ourselves than we are at being kind and loving towards ourselves. Based on these and other factors, self love can be a bit tricky. Once we tell the truth about how we relate to self love, we can start to expand our ability to love ourselves in a more real way.

2) Let go of your conditions. When it comes to loving ourselves, if we even put much attention on it, we often do so in a very conditional way. We love ourselves only when we do “good” things, “succeed” in specific ways, or take care of ourselves in ways we deem important. While there's nothing wrong with us feeling good about ourselves in relationship to these and other “positive” things, truly loving ourselves is an unconditional process – which means accepting, appreciating, and celebrating all of who we are, both light and dark. By letting go of our conditions and loving ourselves in the unconditional, like how way we often love babies, animals, or others we have little or no specific expectations of, we can start to deepen our authentic love for ourselves.

3) Start practicing, right now. Do anything and everything you can to express love for yourself – right now, not after you think you “deserve” it. Since most of us have some resistance to loving ourselves, taking any and every self loving action we can think of is important. There are lots of things we can do – both big and small – to practice loving ourselves. Speaking kindly about ourselves, taking compliments graciously, taking care of ourselves, honoring our emotions, pampering ourselves, celebrating our successes (and failures), appreciating our “flaws,” and much more are all simple (although not always easy) things we can do to practice self love. Also, be willing to ask for help and look to others who seem to do a good job at this, so you can get the support and guidance that you need. Loving ourselves is a life-long, never ending practice.

Self love is the starting point, not the end game, of our conscious growth and development. For most of us, myself included, it’s much easier to talk about loving ourselves than it is to actually practice it. However, when we put our attention on loving ourselves in an authentic way, everything in our lives that is important to us – our work, our relationships, our goals, and more – flows from there with a sense of ease, joy, and, most important, love....


Keep rocking..Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Monday, July 5, 2010

Everybody needs true love...How true is this fact...?

Everybody needs true love...Isn't it true?? Aa fact gurinchi inkasta detailed ga explain chesedey ee article...Click read more...!



What’s a fairytale without a prince charming, a princess in distress and true love? It’ll probably be just another old story that will somehow fade into obscurity as time goes by. But, the element of true love is what made fairy tales into all-time blockbusters. Yes, everybody wants it so bad, even those princesses who did nothing but wait for their courageous knight in shining armour atop his mighty steed. Even today, everybody wants a taste of true love no matter how elusive it is. Some are lucky to have stumbled upon it, while a lot have simply given up in the unending quest for it.

So, they find someone that they could somehow tolerate, put up with them so they don’t have to feel the loneliness of being single ever again, and then marry just because it’s what everyone expects them to do. Quite a lot of people have gone this way, but only a few have escaped from the challenges and veer from the all-too-often divorce. But what is it really? Is it a cruel myth, a fleeting insanity, or is it something real and tangible, like crow's feet and potbellies? How can anybody know if the right person is already in front of him/her? While it is easier to be dreamy-eyed and romantic, it is important to understand and remember that to find love isn’t as simple as going out there and putting a tag on someone who seems to be THE one.

Often, it’s more of a case of waiting for THE one, instead of finding him/her in an instant. The harsh realities of everyday life render a vast majority of people to be pretty cynical, and it can be rather mindboggling when one somehow ends up with a wonderful person. Some take it as some sort of pure luck, but time and again it’s the concerted effort from two people who wants to make the relationship last. It is likewise essential to have a clear picture of one’s own self-worth: every person must be capable of self-love, for how can anybody else love you if you can’t even love yourself in the first place? When meeting someone and the relationship somehow clicks, the important thing isn’t how many hobbies or interests you share with the person.

It’s the similar deep-seated core values that makes you both yearn for the same things from life. The initial fluttery sensation and feeling of heightened anticipation will always be there when meeting someone new and exciting. Although, this stage rarely lasts long—a lot of people get disenchanted upon returning to their senses only to discover that the seemingly perfect partner is just as flawed as all the others. But, this doesn’t make loving the person an impossibility. What makes a relationship work is not finding the person with a hundred good points that can make everything wonderful. The “happy ever afters” only exist in fairytales, not in real life.

A relationship is a process, and the couple must grow together with each other, able to weather any storm or the big changes in life. True love calls for hard work and give and take from each person to last...Special thankz for my sis puja for sharing this...

Keep rocking,
Regards,
Sriram Mallik

Sunday, July 4, 2010

10 things that a girl might not be knowing in her life about a guy

Hey friends,herez an article to describe the nature of a guy...Actually got it in the form of a message in my mobile from my childhood friend,Mrudula..Thankzz Mrudula for sharing such a nice message...Click read more...!



10 things that a girl probably mightnot be knowing in her life...They are....,

1) Guys are more emotional than they think,if they loved them truely...!

2) Guys may be flirting but before they go to sleep,they always think about the girl they truely care about...!

3) Guys go crazy over a girl's smile...!

4) A guy who likes a girl wants to be the only guy they talk to...!

5) Girls are guys weakness...!

6) If a guy tells you about his problems,he just needs someone to listen to him...!

7) When a guy asks a girl to leave him alone,he is just saying,"Please come and sit with me"...!

8) No guy can handle all his problem on is own..He is just stubborn to admit it...!

9) When a guy sacrifices his sleep,wealth and health just to be with a gal,he really likes that girl and wants to be with her forever

10) A guy loves a girl more than what she loves him...!

Hey all girls,try to email this article to all the guys to make them happier and all guys,try forwarding this mail for all the girls to make them understand about guys...!

Keep rocking,
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

Saturday, July 3, 2010

How to Help Someone With a Broken Heart

How to Help Someone With a Broken Heart....?A special article sent by my cousin Pujitha...Thankyou puja for such a wonderful mail..
You know someone that has had their heart broken and they are so hurt that they seem to withdraw from everyone and everything. You want to help, but you just don't know what to do. Read on for a few suggestions and tips..Click read more...!




Now if you did the heart breaking, that would be an altogether different situation. If you broke someone's heart accidentally, you can probably help the healing process with a heartfelt apology and doing everything in your power to make up for the wrong. If you did it intentionally, for whatever reason, the odds are unless you think you made a mistake and try to fix it, everything you do will only add to the other person's pain.

But if you are a friend, relative, or bystander who knows of someone who has had their heart broken by someone else, there are some things you can do to help.

DON'T LET HIM ISOLATE HIMSELF

You need to get him to get involved with life again. Don't let him wallow in self pity for very long. The more he isolates himself, the more walls he will build between him and every other relationship he has. It is very dangerous.

He needs to get involved with life again. He needs to interact with people. Get him involved in activities and clean social events. I pastor many people who have a broken heart in our Church and I've learned that people need to get involved in life again. They need to invest in other's lives in some way. I never recommend to a broken hearted person just to lie low. Get him involved.

You may need to be a bit blunt about it. You may need to say things like this: "Don't let what that other person did keep you from living! You're hurt, very hurt. I know you wouldn't want to wish that pain on anyone else, but staying here, doing nothing, is hurting those that do care about you. Come on. Let's get out of here."

Do whatever you need to, within reason, to get him involved in life again.

TRY TO GET HIM TO OPEN UP AND TALK ABOUT IT

So much pain is released when people are able to talk about their broken heart. If you can get him to talk, he will find a release for a lot of his pain. The problem is getting him to talk at all. He may want to so withdraw in himself that he has no interest in conversation. Or, more likely, he may fear reliving the pain if he talks about it.

He still needs to talk about it. You don't necessarily have to agree with his viewpoints, anger, or reaction, but being sympathetic is important. Allow yourself to sympathize with his pain. Tell him so. Tell him he needs to talk about it just to help rid himself of some of the pain. Explain that talking about it will help. Most likely you've suffered a broken heart yourself. Tell him about that time. Let him know that he isn't the only one that has ever suffered.

When he does start talking, you need to be a good listener. Don't interrupt, don't do the talking yourself. Learn to listen. Your thoughts, suggestions, and solutions are not relevant at this moment. Let him flush some of the pain out of his system. You don't have to have a solution; you just need to be a shock absorber.

USE HUMOR TO DRAW HIM OUT

This is something that I always try to do when I counsel a person with a broken heart. I try to get him to laugh. I may make a crack about getting a six pack of root beer, or making a run for the most broken heart award. If I can get a person to laugh, chuckle, or grin I will have broken past the pain for just a moment.

Having breeched the barrier of his pain, you are now in a unique position to help. Not only is he more apt to listen to you, but he has found a moment's relief from his pain and that is invaluable to him.

POINT HIM TO GOD

You or he may not be necessarily a Christian as I am, but having a God who loves you, a Saviour who cares for you is very comforting. Having a faith that is greater than the sum of all our lives brings tremendous hope and provides a solid rock on which to stand when the storms of life rage around you.

The great tragedy of life is having no hope. Give a person hope and he will find strength and reason to heal his broken heart.

These are some things that you can do to help someone with a broken heart..