Distinguish between FRIEND & LOVE

This is an article that i completely dedicate to all girls.....Click read more...!

There are many guys who might be your friends, they might be nice and kind, and they might give a helping hand when you are in need of some help. They might protect you and they might also care for you to such an extent that you can be yourself when you are with them. In short, one of them can be a good boyfriend for you.

Most of us believe that a good relationship (love) could be started from a good friendship, that’s why we always tend to create good relationship with all of our guy friends, so if someday one of them becomes a boyfriend, our relationship with him will last long and more solid.

But the problem is … after many years of being together with them, none of our guy friends invite us to go out with him personally. And even if we go out for dinner or watch cinema, we always go with the group of guys and not making a romantic date between two persons.

When we are ready to have a lover, our friendship doesn’t go anywhere. If we invite one of them to come out, we are not sure if he will take it as a date or maybe he will only see it as an ordinary dinner. Why do men only consider us as a friend? Why doesn’t the friendship turn into a love or a better relationship?

There are many reasons why friendship can’t change to be a love relationship, some of the reasons are:

a. He is afraid to ruin the friendship:
You’ve been very close to him and often spend time by hanging out with him along with few other guy friends. Your relationship is beautiful and that’s why he’s afraid to change the status of friendship to love. He doesn’t want to make the other guys feel jealous. He doesn’t want to make you feel awkward and be distant from him. As a result, he retains his status as a friend and doesn’t turn into a lover.

b. Physical attraction disappears:
It’s not a secret if men are visual creatures; they are easily aroused by women’s physical beauty. But when you are very close to him as friend, he will not think much about your physical appearance. He accepts you the way you are and even he considers you as one of his best friends. This might not be the case if you get into a closer relationship.

c. There is no challenge anymore:
When a man approaches a woman and is able to take her out for dinner, that would be a proud moment to him because he can get a woman for dating. However when you are very close to man as a friend, going out for dinner or hanging out with him is a casual thing which he doesn’t consider it as a challenge anymore.

d. You don’t know when should change the status:
You’ve known him for years as a friend, you see him every day and feel comfortable with him. You may think that he will always be with you and gives his shoulder to you. However one day when he gets a girlfriend suddenly you start feeling sorry for yourself for being late to propose your feelings to him. When you are interested on one of your friends and want to be his girlfriend, you better tell him the truth. At least you will know about his feeling on you, so you won’t regret whatever happens in the future.

e. He is not excited anymore:
When a man is interested in a woman, he will feel excited every time he meets her. Even when he is alone in his room, he will still imagine her. When you are too close to a man and meet him every day as a friend, the excitement begins to vanish. He will ignore the feeling, and it will be difficult to change the feeling of a friend to be a lover.

So dear friends (especially girls), everything is in your hands.. Your life should be as per your decisions and shouldn’t be controlled or commanded by anyone else...Decide everything with care, take decisions wisely...Enjoy life......Keep rocking...!

With best regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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What is LOVE ? How to understand LOVE ?

Many people,who have met me till now regarding the counseling basis.,kept asking me one question that i could never get the right answer....How to understand LOVE..?Thought for these days,collected some raw info from various magazines,surfed some on the net and here i am finally with the answer...Click read more..!


Is love easy to understand? What makes it special or what makes it disturbing? What connects? What fails?

This article discusses essential characteristics of love. If you feel that you've something to connect to these,I'm sure you'll connect to your soul mates.

Love is a discovery: Love is the process of finding oneself in other eyes. It is about realizing your self-respect in the ones who have care for you.

Love is giving: Love is giving and expecting nothing in return.  Love needs no calculation to get love back.

Love is a connection with feel: True love exists when you do not have to blame or explain, you just feel and connect. You can either love what you do or do what you love. Any other combination will fail.

Love is demonstrating: Trying to do something by force in the name of love will fail. A demonstrated love will win. Those who are able to demonstrate their love without intruding in the space of others get love back. Love is cooperation: The only way to win love and respect is to kill greed and cooperate for common goals.

Love is sacrifice: Love demands only one sacrifice and that is to love what you love more than anybody or anything else. At times you need to satisfy your ego, your pride in order to win the love of your special ones.

Love is blessing: Fear kills fear. Might kills right. Love wins all.

Love is correction: Punishment ensures you follow a set process. Love ensures you connect to the process. The results of punishment are immediate and might be divisive in terms of family and other relations.The results of love, though delayed, are sure and uniting.

Love is self-respect: To love your love, you need to love yourself. Without self-confidence, there is no love.

Love is direction: Lost in love, lost in life(Doesn't apply in all the cases). Love connects to others; any other feeling stays mechanical.

Love is work: Love your work because nobody else should.

Love is creation: Love creates. It will make you what you want to be.

Keep loving!! It creates, refines and defines life..!!

Regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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6 tips for a "Successful long lasting relationship"

Hi friends, writing on how to make a relationship last for a longer time. Click read more and read it for yourself...!

How to make a long lasting relationship ? 

Many couples wonder how to make their relationship last for ever. More than 50% of marriages end up in divorce.(Assumption). Did you ask yourself why are they happening? What happened to the old times where people used to stay together for ever? Time has changed and now there are many issues that contribute to the failure of a relationship.

To make a relationship last longer, follow the below guidelines:

1. Learn to communicate with your partner.

Learn to listen to what he/she says without judgment. Your partner might have different opinion when compared to that of yours and that is fine. You can’t make your partner accept your opinion if he/she does not want to. Be interested and sympathetic because you should care about your partner's concerns.

2. Appreciate the other person.

If your partner does something special for you, thank him/her. This is a simple thing, which makes a lot of impact in your day to day relationship. Adding sugar coated words to the appreciation would definitely do wonders.

3. Trust.

Building trust between you and your partner is essential to making the relationship everlasting. You have to be honest with your partner about your intentions and actions. Trust is like a glass..Once lost cannot be gained..Just like a broken glass where the broken crack can never be hidden.

4. Spending time together.

Most of us might say that we are busy with work, household activities etc and there is not much time to spend with our loved ones. The truth is that "There is always time". Getting up early to share a breakfast together, sharing daily household works, complementing each other when possible, asking how he/she is feeling which portrays your care & affection play an important role.

5. Keep things private.

Cute little quarrels and fights are the most common in a relation. This is the spice of life. There is not a single relationship that does not have arguments. Remember to keep all arguments private between you and your partner. A lot of couples after having an argument, start sharing it with their parents or friends. Entry of a third person might create a distance between you and your partner. Never let a third person judge your argument. Solve it by yourself and keep your egos aside.

6. Don’t change your partner.

Many couples try to change something about their partner that they don’t like. If you don’t like something about your partner, tell him/her about your concerns, but don’t force him/her to do something they don’t want. Its good to have your opinion heard and understood accordingly but its always incorrect to go against it if your opinion is ignored. Instead try to think and analyse why he/she is against your opinion. 

Remember its always good to have your concerns solved by talking with each other than taking hasty decisions and regretting it in the future.

Hope these tips would be of some help to atleast a few to keep your relationships stronger...!
With best regards,
Sriram Mallik.

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TRUE LOVE.. WHY DO YOU NEED TRUE LOVE ?

A wonderful story which explains the reason why everyone needs LOVE. To be very honest, there is nothing like TRUE LOVE or FALSE LOVE..Its just LOVE and UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

Go on and read this little article. Awaiting your comments.

What’s a fairy tale without a prince charming, a princess in distress and love? It’ll probably be just another old story that will somehow fade into obscurity as time goes by. But, the element of true love is what made fairy tales into all-time blockbusters. Yes, everybody wants it so bad, even those princesses who did nothing but wait for their courageous knight in shining armour atop his mighty steed. Even today, everybody wants a taste of true love no matter how elusive it is. Some are lucky to have stumbled upon it, while a lot have simply given up in the unending quest for it.

So, they find someone that they could somehow tolerate, put up with them so they don’t have to feel the loneliness of being single ever again, and then marry just because it’s what everyone expects them to do. Quite a lot of people have gone this way, but only a few have escaped from the challenges and veer from the all-too-often divorce. But what is it really? Is it a cruel myth, a fleeting insanity, or is it something real and tangible, like crow's feet and potbellies? How can anybody know if the right person is already in front of him/her? While it is easier to be dreamy-eyed and romantic, it is important to understand and remember that to find love isn’t as simple as going out there and putting a tag on someone who seems to be THE one.

Often, it’s more of a case of waiting for THE one, instead of finding him/her in an instant. The harsh realities of everyday life render a vast majority of people to be pretty cynical, and it can be rather mindboggling when one somehow ends up with a wonderful person. Some take it as some sort of pure luck, but time and again it’s the concerted effort from two people who wants to make the relationship last. It is likewise essential to have a clear picture of one’s own self-worth: every person must be capable of self-love, for how can anybody else love you if you can’t even love yourself in the first place? When meeting someone and the relationship somehow clicks, the important thing isn’t how many hobbies or interests you share with the person.

It’s the similar deep-seated core values that makes you both yearn for the same things from life. The initial fluttery sensation and feeling of heightened anticipation will always be there when meeting someone new and exciting. Although, this stage rarely lasts long—a lot of people get disenchanted upon returning to their senses only to discover that the seemingly perfect partner is just as flawed as all the others. But, this doesn’t make loving the person an impossibility. What makes a relationship work is not finding the person with a hundred good points that can make everything wonderful. The “happy ever afters” only exist in fairytales, not in real life.

A relationship is a process, and the couple must grow together with each other, able to weather any storm or the big changes in life. True love calls for hard work and give and take from each person to last...Special thankz for my sis puja for sharing this...

Best wishes & Regards,
Sriram Mallik

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WOMEN ARE SO DAMN SPECIAL.. Why ?

Ever wondered why women are so special..?? I hope most of us have been listening to this phrase very often,"WOMEN ARE SO SPECIAL",atleast from most of the feminine group..??  Go ahead and read a small story which explains why women are so special..!!

"Mum and Dad were watching TV when Mum said, "I'm tired, and it's getting late. I think I'll go to bed." She went to the kitchen to make sandwiches for the next day's lunches.
Rinsed out the popcorn bowls, took meat out of the freezer for supper the following evening, checked the cereal box levels, filled the sugar container, put spoons and bowls on the table and started the coffee pot for brewing the next morning.

She then put some wet clothes in the dryer, put a load of clothes into the washer, ironed a shirt and secured a loose button. She picked up the game pieces left on the table, put the phone back on the charger and put the telephone book into the drawer. She watered the plants, emptied a wastebasket and hung up a towel to
dry. 

She yawned and stretched and headed for the bedroom. She stopped by the desk and wrote a note to the teacher, counted out some cash for the excursion and pulled a text book out from hiding under the chair. She signed a birthday card for a friend,addressed and stamped the envelope and wrote a quick note for the grocery store. She put both near her bag. 

Mum then washed her face with 3 in 1 cleanser, put on her Night Solution & age fighting moisturizer, brushed and flossed her teeth and filed her nails. 

Dad called out, "I thought you were going to bed."

"I'm on my way," she said. She put some water into the dog's dish and put the cat outside, then made sure the doors were locked and the patio light was on.. She looked in on each of the kids and turned out their bedside lamps and radios, hung up a shirt, threw some dirty socks into the hamper, and had a brief conversation with the one up still doing homework.In her own room, she set the alarm; laid out clothing for the next day, straightened up the shoe rack.

She added three things to her 6 most important things to do list. She said her prayers, and visualized the accomplishment of her goals. About that time, Dad turned off the TV and announced to no one in particular. "I'm going to bed." And he did...without another thought.


Anything extraordinary here? *Wonder why women live longer...?
'CAUSE THEY ARE MADE FOR THE LONG HAUL....... (and they can't die sooner, they still have things to do!!!!)

This is the reason WHY WOMEN ARE SO SPECIAL...!!

Dedicating this article to all the women,mothers,sisters,lovers and all the lovely people across the globe. LOVE YOU for what you all are.. Without you, men like us are nothing. I mean it.

With best regards,
Sriram Mallik Mocherla.

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