Hi friends.howzz you all..??This article is specially dedicated to all the motherzz who are reading this blog..I took these many days to analyze and to present all my feelings in this article..Dont forget to read it till the end...Click read more..!
For most mothers, the love they feel for their children is a strong and powerful bond that will continue throughout their lives. The love that a mother feels for her child is the same whether the child was grown in their own body or in their heart, as when a mother adopts a child.
Do you know how a mother always feels..?? She would always say this to herself..."My children are dear to me and I find it hard to see them in pain. I feel like a mother hen watching over her baby chicks. Children are tough in some areas, but always need to know they are loved, wanted and are priceless to us, at any age. Even when our children don't need us any longer to tie their shoestrings or to wipe their noses, they still need to know that we care. Often a child will not feel the impact of their mother's love until they become a parent themselves or their mother is no longer living. Then, the power of a lifetime of love their mother provided sets in". These words are often heard here and there by any parent..I have re-collected them in my mind and have mentioned only a few of them..If you ask the same question for your mother then you would get almost the same answer that might differ in the way they express..!
To love and accept your children, even when they are driving you nuts and when their behavior is horrid is most challenging. But the mix of unconditional love and loving limits are the most important duties and responsability a mother can have. Hugs and kisses are a necessity. Love can be expressed in many other ways too, including the discipline and responsibility we give to our children. Eye contact and a simple touch on the shoulder or a love pat on the back mean so much and cost so little. Try today to think of ways you can show your children how much you love and value them.
Here are a few demonstrations of love I have found from many people of my age,many children are fond of. You can adapt these suggestions according to the ages of your child.
Children often tend to share their feelings with their friends rather than sharing them with their parents.This is because of the communication gap that you are creating between yourselves..So let this not happen..Try to become their best friends and stay close to their hearts,not only as a friend but also as a mother..!!
Outward expressions of affection for your husband such as holding hands and warm hugs are good examples of love and security you can give to your children.
Tuck little thoughtful love notes in their lunches, written on a napkin or notepaper or under their pillow.
Saying a simple, "I love you!" A smiley face or you're the greatest!
Ask them to read to you - whatever they want - for 10 minutes.
Spend time listening - this is sometimes hard with an active lifestyle,but more important than ever. Even 5 minutes can do wonders for a child's self image. Remember good eye contact is one of the keys. Pull yourself away from the computer or desk and sit with them face to face. Mirror their body language, moving forward as they do, or sitting on the floor with them.
For younger children even up to 10 years old, holding them on your lap for a minute or two might seem silly, but most kids miss the times when they were younger and were just held and comforted.
Share in their hobby or interest. Look at what they can do - kids love to show off to their parents, so watch. Listen for, "Watch this mom!" Put down what you're doing and really watch and praise them for their effort. Encourage them to keep trying. Smile and verbally respond.
Surprise them by buying their favorite magazine without being asked to. Just put it in their room with a little note - Thought of you today! Love, Mom
In some occassions,try to be silly for atleast a few seconds,for example where parents eat finishers like ice creams/salad first and then the main course; kids love it when their parents are silly at times.
Let the children make their own family photo scrapbook - try color copying some of photos in your photo albums - this way you are not losing valuable photos if they cut them up. Old cards and gift-wrap can make nice backgrounds and borders.
The best way to let them know you care is to hear it from you. Even the big kids need to hear this. They might act as if they are annoyed, but it is sinking in.
Whichever way you choose to share your feelings remember to do something each day. Experts agree that if a child receives their nurturing inside of the family, they are less inclined to look outside to others that might have other motives. Create a home where love is shown. Any parents, whether rich or poor, can afford this.
These simple and free actions can have a significant influence on our children's daily lives that will last for a lifetime. The cycle of love between you as a mother and your child will be passed on to their children all over again. Stop and enjoy them now. Before you know it, they will be grown and this time will be lost.I would always term MOTHER's LOVE as UNCONDITIONAL LOVE..So let this terminology be as such...Keep loving,keep rocking..!!
Start today!
Regards,
Sriram Mallik.
